Every once and awhile I will receive a crazy email from someone that wants to show me “THE” way. They came across my website and see that I talk about the universal laws, but they are concerned about my soul after I die. They feel that I am materialistic, because I enjoy things like having my ideal partner, my ideal body, abundance, taking nice vacations, and so on.
Those are typically the type of people that are so unhappy and they search for something that will help them. They see what someone else has and then they get upset because they don’t have it. Instead of being inspired by someone else, they feel the need to tell them how they are living their life wrong.
I thought this was great to bring up, because this is the exact opposite of the Law of Allowing. Someone was so upset because of my way of life (good, bad, or indifferent), that they had to write me a VERY long and descriptive email about where I am going to go when I die because I, oh let me quote it: “Our sin nature that we inherited from Adam and Eve leads us to live just for here and now and mainly for self. (Which is all your program is about, get more for me, a husband, a fancy car, a dream home etc.)”
I had to laugh when I received this, because I am living my wonderful life and it is because I have wonderful souls in my life, I have deep meaning by what I teach (I get to help people improve their lives and feel a deeper connection every day), I have such an amazing connection to God/Goddess/All that is and all the other stuff is attracted to me because of the high vibration of love and appreciation that I hold.
This person (and so many others that don’t know) don’t understand, or are afraid of the Universal Laws, make judgments. What does judging another do? It lowers your vibration!
One of my husband’s friends at Alex’s Christening told me that I was a pagan because I believed in the Universal laws. Seriously? You are at a Christening for my son and your belief is that because I follow and believe in the Universal laws that I am going to hell? Again . . . I had to laugh.
It all is funny to me, because I can see that they are scared. They are in total fear because it is something they can’t understand. So what do they do? They judge and ridicule someone else’s ways. Again, going against the Law of Allowing!
There are three ways that the Law of Allowing works:
As far as relationships, when you’re around someone do you think that if someone has beliefs that are opposed to yours that you have to make them see the light and try to change them?
If someone you’re around has a different belief then you have do you feel that you need to change their opinion or their belief or do you simply allow them to feel the way they feel and give yourself permission to feel the way you feel? Do you accept situations and people that stand for something that you don’t? Or, do you want the opposite to happen? Do you basically try and change people’s opinions and try to control, and basically judge people who don’t think the way you think?
That is truly the Law of Allowing as it relates to being in relationships. We think that we have to have it both ways. We think that everybody has to think the way we think or believe the way we believe so we push back on people if they don’t think the way we think. That is resistance!
I know I used to push back on and try to change my parents, or push back on circumstances I didn’t like. What is wrong with this is I was completely focused on what was wrong in my life and what I needed to change in my life instead of accepting and allowing it to be there.
Understanding the Law of Attraction whatever you’re focused upon you attract more of, when you’re focused on what you don’t want in order to defeat it or resist it you’re not allowing what you do want to flow to you. I hope I am making sense and you’re kind of getting it as far as how it relates to people.
When you’re trying to make your partner think a certain way or be a certain way you’re focused on the “bad qualities” or the way you want them to be instead of being focused on the positive qualities of that person and really drawing out the positive qualities in the person. You’re focused on the wrong thing. You’re focused on what you don’t want, what you don’t like instead of being focused on what you really do like about that person.
When that happens you’re out of alignment with the Law of Allowing. If you’re out of alignment with the Law of Allowing you believe that another person needs to think, feel, believe and act according to how you think they should. I call this having perfect pictures. That is what my book Perfect Pictures explains.
This can cause a lot of suffering in your life and in your relationships. This is literally the opposite of accepting another person as they are. It is based on this. If you have a deep rooted fear that unless everyone thinks, feels, believes and acts in a certain way basically your way that they are somehow wrong, you then judge them. In that judging you are in a lower level emotion. You’re in a lower level vibration and based on the Law of Attraction you will attract more negative people, circumstances, and situations to you.
When you’re in a relationship with someone whether it is a coworker, a significant relationship, a relationship with your kids when you’re judging them and wanting them to be the way you think you want them to be instead of accepting them for who you are you’re in a low vibration and that is what you’re going to get back to you.
You will attract more negative people, situations, circumstances and things to you. If you need to make everyone conform in order to make you feel good about yourself and your world you truly will never experience freedom. This is like the exact opposite of freedom. This is bondage and you can never get the rest of the entire world to behave the way you think they should.
This is why so many arguments start. This is why wars start. It is just because we don’t allow people to believe what they believe. Literally the Law of Allowing is about relaxing, having a relaxed a positively focused mind and allowing the universe to deliver to you what you’re wanting.
It is like with anything when you say yes to something you attract more of that into your life because that is what you’re focused on based on the Law of Attraction. Again, when you noted something and you’re resisting something you attract more of that into your life because this is what you’re focused on.
In order to allow what you want to flow to you, you must allow others to focus on what they want even if you don’t agree with it. When you understand these principles and put them into use consciously, intentionally and deliberately you put yourself in a place of non-resistance.
In the example of receiving this email where this man was trying to “enlighten” me on “THE” way to be, I laughed and silently blessed this man in hopes that he can find his happiness. I quickly moved about my day thanking the Universe for all the amazing blessings in my life.
I thought it was a good time to bring up this subject of the Law of Allowing, because the holidays are coming and your holiday season will be so much better when you are in the space of allowing.
I wish you a wonderful holiday season!