Many years ago there was an amazing book that came out called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. One of the agreements is “Don’t make assumptions.”
A lot of times we assume we know what is going on within a person. We think that just by how they are acting, we know what is happening within them.
Frederic and I really have become a lot closer and more emotionally intimate by asking, when the other makes a comment, simple questions like “What do you mean by that?” or “What does that mean to you?” This allows us to not assume that we understand what a word or even a concept means to the other person. Even though we are so connected, we have different backgrounds, we are different people, and not everything means the same thing to him as it does to me.
A couple of months ago I was out to dinner with my amazing Operations Manager, Theresa, and her family. We were enjoying being outside at this amazing hotel with a great view of the lake. The kids were running around and having a great time.
All of a sudden, Alex ran right into a tree. I couldn’t understand how a child who is so in his joy can have something bad like that happen.
And then it happened again. Alex was at a school field trip and a friend of his was chasing after him. And he ran right into a pole. This time he had to go to the hospital in an ambulance.
So I was on a cruise with one of my teachers, Abraham, and I was able to ask the question of how that happens when a child is in such joy.
And Abraham reminded me that we can’t assume we know what was going on within him. It might have looked like he was aligned; but if he was, he would not have run into the tree. They told me that from the aligned place he would have zagged at the right moment.
We can never assume we know what is going on with another person. Because for something like that to happen, they said, we are questioning the laws of the universe and that everything is always a vibrational match to what we are attracting. And sometimes we attract contrast.
So for the people who are in your life… don’t assume you know where they are or what they are thinking or feeling. ASK.
And share with them where you are and what you are thinking and feeling. Your thoughts and emotions allows those you are in relationship with to get closer to you.
And it allows you to be the authentic and amazing being you are. No one is like you, and no one will ever be again.
You are an extension of Source energy in this physical body that is unique from anyone else.