I was so inspired to write The Art of Having It All because I was told that I “can’t.” Whenever I have been told this in my life, something happens within me that makes me want to show that I can.

This book and this movement is my life’s work to show people that they can have what they want, as they define it and as they desire it to be.

We must not rely on what other people think is the definition of “having it all.” We have to define that for ourselves. We don’t all want the same things. And even if we want to have similar things—the body, the house, the partner, the kids (or not), the money, the career, etc.—each of those things has different nuances, and the forms are different based on each person. For example, the qualities in a partner is different from one woman to the next.


The things we want now will change as we ourselves change. What we want in our 20’s is different than what we want in our 30’s and 40’s and beyond. Each desire gives birth to a new desire, and what is inevitable is continuous expansion.

One way to become a better manifester is by paying attention to what we say. We need to pay close attention to our language. Any time we are being told or telling ourselves we “can’t” do anything, we need to challenge that thought and belief. We are amazing beings and we either choose to do or have something or not; it is not because we “can’t.” Language is so important because words have meaning, and they carry a vibration with them. Saying “I can” gives a sense of hope and empowerment, whereas “I can’t” is limiting and very constrictive.

And one more thing . . .

Because our lives are not “perfect” or contrast shows up in our lives, does not mean we throw the baby out with the bath water. Meaning, our lives are not supposed to be concrete and “perfect.” They are always being informed and changed by the unknown, and there is always contrast and chaos that exists in this universe which then creates order out of the chaos. The contrast always births the clarity, and then the cycle continues.

So truly “having it all” is defining it for ourselves, finding the feeling of each thing we want to experience, surrendering to the contrast, and giving birth to the clarity. And on and on it goes.

What do you want?

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