So can you “have it all” when you have been struck with a virus, gained weight, had a relationship go south, or any other thing that we consider to be contrast?

YES!

Because life is always about defining and redefining what we desire.

And when is the best time to redefine what you want and desire? When the contrast shows up.

When that contrast shows up and pain is caused from it, that’s when we are more motivated and inspired to have our lives be different.

And that is where we as deliberate creators decide what we do want, what we do want to experience, and how we from this new vantage point define our “it” and our “all.”

I am always a pretty healthy person. I take care of myself by working out regularly, eating well, and getting lots of pampering with massages, facials, reflexology, acupuncture, healing sessions, etc. I am always focused on health and well-being.

And there is no time that I want more health and well-being than when I am sick.

That is such a natural thing for me that I almost take it for granted. Kind of like having access to water all the time, and not stopping to appreciate what it does for our bodies each time we drink it.

In December, I came down with a horrible cough and when it took a turn for the worse, I went and saw a physician. I was seeing a naturopath, but this required more Western medicine and care. That is where opening up to both/and is important.

I was first diagnosed with pneumonia, and then later it was confirmed that I had bronchitis. To find out after my third ER visit that I had a very extreme case of pneumonia.

These were horrible weeks for me, as I was in and out of the ER because I couldn’t breathe. I was telling Frederic Happy New Year in the ER.

During this entire process, I understood that I was releasing BIG time. This contrast was teaching me something, helping me release what was no longer needed or wanted, and also getting me clearer and clearer on what is most important to me in my life.

There were actual moments of when I was praying to go back to non-physical. I had nothing more in me to stay here. That is how horrible I felt.

I learned so much about surrender (which I am sharing in the Divine Manifesting section) because it got me through this time.

Interestingly enough, with one very rough cough, I came back into my body and realized how amazing life is and that it is worth not just staying in my body, but that I truly wanted to thrive.

Even during this time I still found my “having it all” moments. At one point of resting on the couch I looked over at my husband, Frederic and saw him cooking dinner next to the beautiful flowers he had bought for me earlier that day. I felt such appreciation for him and how he had been taking such great care of me while I was sick. That was a “having it all” moment for me.

So even in great contrast, and feeling as bad as I have ever felt in my entire life, I looked forward to what I wanted and what I wanted to stay for in this lifetime.

And that really is having it all. Knowing that when contrast shows up, it does not define us or our life, but it is a new vantage point from which to get clear and expand.

So this year when contrast shows up (and it will because we are humans having this experience of sorting through all the possibilities that are in the field of pure potentiality), get the information that you need from the contrast. It is there to inform you, not paralyze or harm you. And it is up to you and what you do with that contrast when it does show up.

I could have sat in bed and resisted what was happening to me. I could have resisted the fact that I had to cancel teleseminars and reschedule my classes and coaching sessions (which I don’t like doing). I could have resisted that my holiday plans had to be changed. Instead, I surrendered.

I was not being called to slow down. I was being called to STOP. And in that was a complete blessing…because I have designed my life the way I have, I was able to take three weeks off of work and do what I needed to do most: REST.

Believe me, this was not easy at first because I am so full of energy and excitement for life. I wanted to keep moving, keep creating, and keep enjoying all that Arizona has to offer.

But I had to surrender.

What is the difference between surrender and detachment? In the Divine Manifesting section, I describe the difference.

As always, in this newsletter, there are teleseminars, resources, affirmations, and meditations to help you on your journey to empowerment.

Imagine and enjoy,

“Your outer reality is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself.”

Having It All Moments

The boys were given a gold fish, which they named “Sparkles” while we were in a hotel room.

You will see a lot of videos in the bedroom, because that is where I lived for most of the month.

Being entertained by Maxim

This is what we do in our family at Christmas.

New way to play Twister.

Wait for it!