feeling of unworthiness

Almost all of us experience feelings of unworthiness from time to time, but not everyone understands just how important it is to learn ways to soothe them.  The fact is, worthiness and unworthiness are not private feelings that stay locked within the confines of our hearts and minds. They are vibrations that are transmitted, invisibly but powerfully, to everyone and everything we come into contact with.  And as such, our degree of unworthiness has a direct impact on the abundance we create in every area of our lives.  This is why it’s essential to learn how to soothe feelings of unworthiness when they arise.  Because only when you truly love and value yourself are you able to receive the abundance you desire and deserve. 

How you feel about yourself matters – a lot.

Your relationship with yourself – meaning, how you feel about yourself deep down – sets the tone for your relationship with everyone and everything else.  On a practical level, your feelings of worthiness or unworthiness influence the jobs you take and the level of income you earn.  They determine whether or not you listen to yourself, and how much or how little you attend to your own basic needs.  And of course, how you feel about yourself is always being reflected back to you in your personal relationships.  Because no matter how much other people love and value you, you won’t actually let that love in unless you love and value yourself.  

Here are 3 ways to expand your feelings of worthiness and increase your abundance in every area of your life: 

To release feelings of unworthiness, tend to your personal energy leaks.

Feelings of unworthiness often drive us to spend our energy reserves at the expense of our own wellbeing.  Deep down, we don’t value our own time and attention, and our lack of personal boundaries reflects this. 

Take stock of where in your life you are saying yes when you’d rather say no.  What relationships, actions or lifestyle choices have you been tolerating even though they no longer bring your value or enjoyment?  These are not benign; they are leaks in your energy field that siphon off your feelings of worthiness and self-respect, as well as your time and attention.  By creating and upholding boundaries in these areas, you send out an instant message of worthiness that reverberates at every level of your being.  

To release feelings of unworthiness, release yourself from the past.

Dwelling on what we perceive as a painful past keeps us stuck in a vibration of resentment, disappointment and unworthiness. And when our attention is fixated on past losses or mistakes, we miss out on the stream of abundance that’s available in each new moment.  

To release this energy, think about the clarity that ultimately came out of each of your painful past experiences.  What you’ll discover is that even those events that were initially disappointing have led to something wonderful.  You now possess wisdom, insight and clarity that you never would have gained had you not taken the exact path you chose. By focusing on the clarity you now have as a result of what you have lived, you’ll raise your vibration, dramatically improve the way you feel, and strengthen your positive attraction power.  

To release feelings of unworthiness, recalibrate your focus.

Those of us on a personal development path can easily become so fixated on all the things we desire to improve that we lose sight of all the things that are worth appreciating just as they are.   

Yes, it’s great to keep your goals in mind and to take steps toward them. But focusing on the future at the expense of feeling great about who and where you now are diminishes your feelings of worthiness.    

Rather than focusing exclusively on your deficiencies, begin giving equal air time to your positive attributes.   You can do this quite easily by simply asking and answering questions such as… 

  • How am I enough?
  • What do I love about myself?
  • What have I done lately that is worthy of appreciation and celebration? 
  • What’s the good news about me?  


Remember that you attract what you consistently focus upon.  Begin focusing on your positive attributes and your feelings worthiness will overflow.   

Worthiness is all about improving your relationship with you.

Increasing your feelings of worthiness is all about improving your relationship with yourself.  And unless you’re on good terms with yourself, it’s just impossible to be on good terms with life.  Valuing yourself as someone worthy of an abundance of love, joy, ease and success provides a lighted path for that abundance to enter your experience.


Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.  Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more; www.watchyourwords.com.