When you’re in the middle of an anxious moment, anxiety feels like anything but a gift. But once you understand what it’s trying to tell you, you’ll appreciate the gift of anxiety and can use it to your benefit.
Unfortunately, most of the time, we shoot the messenger.
Most of us do not regard anxiety as a gift. In fact, we usually resist, it fight against it, and try to get it to go away. We talk ourselves out of it, distract ourselves from it, or take steps to silence it. And what happens when we try to resist a sensation that’s arising from within? Of course, the message keeps getting louder and louder until we finally pay attention.
Understand that anxiety is an indicator, not an actual emotion.
It’s easier to receive the gifts of anxiety when you realize that anxiety is not actually an emotion. Rather, it’s an indication that there are emotions within us that we haven’t allowed ourselves to feel or express.
Anxiety is like a protective mechanism that temporarily shields us from becoming overwhelmed with deeper emotions, such as anger or sadness.
But to find relief, we have to look below that protective layer to discover the source of what’s really going on. Once we do, we can benefit from that wisdom and receive the gift of anxiety.
Here are 3 important ways that anxiety arises in order to serve you:
Anxiety Gift #1: Anxiety gets you to pay attention.
The energy of anxiety is kind of like a fire alarm. It goes off to let you know that some important aspect of you or your life needs attention.
So to receive this gift, you want to really give yourself some time to check in with yourself, rather than brushing the sensation aside.
This is as simple as taking a minute to close your eyes and taking some slow, deep breaths. Withdraw your attention from your surroundings and tune in with what’s happening in your inner world.
Really try to be curious about the sensations that are moving through you. And as you notice any areas of tension or constriction, see if you can go deeper than the anxiety. Allow yourself to connect with the underlying emotion it’s calling your attention to.
Anxiety Gift #2: Anxiety arises to signal a block in your energy.
Emotions are simply energy in motion. And anxiety is an indication of a block or a repression of that normal flow of emotional energy. So once you’re present with the underlying emotions that are blocked, grant them permission to exist, instead of pushing the sensation aside.
See if you can accept however you are feeling in the moment, knowing that emotions are nothing more than waves of energy.
Rather than trying to figure out the cause or assign blame for how you’re feeling, shift your attention from your mind to your heart. Feel your connection to All That Is, to the life force energy that underlies every living thing. This life force energy creates and sustains all things, and connects you to the universe itself.
Allow your personal energy field to become entrained and aligned with the pure, divine source that sustains you. And remind yourself that you can’t be focused within this high frequency energy and in a state of discord at the same time.
Anxiety Gift #3: Anxiety reminds us to focus on what it is we desire, not on what we don’t want.
The final message that anxiety brings us is one of self-empowerment. Because whenever we’re feeling anxious, one thing is sure: We’re focusing more on what we don’t want than what we do.
So the next time you’re having an anxious moment, remind yourself that you have the power to deliberately direct your focus. You can complain about problems or you can envision their solutions. You can focus on what’s missing from your life, or on the areas where you are incredibly abundant.
Remember that energy flows in the direction that our attention goes. So decide on the quality of vibration that you would like to bring into your physical and mental body and put your attention there! All it takes is for you to place 51% of your attention on what you desire for your entire mood and energy to flip.
You can imagine the energies of joy, expansion, ease, connection, well-being – whatever you are needing in that moment – pouring from your divine source into you. And just feel this frequency soothing and uplifting every dimension of your being.
And finally, do something nice for yourself that anchors this new frequency into your energy body in a concrete way. Take a hot bath, go for a walk in nature, watch a funny movie, pet your dog or cat. Stretch out for a few minutes, or take some time to think about something pleasant that you’re looking forward to.
Remember that you are the one who sets the energetic tone for your life, and you can choose whatever energy you desire. Every time anxiety arises within you, just know that it’s pointing you back toward this truth.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
When it comes to your happiness and abundance in life, perspective is absolutely everything.
Why?
Because what you experience as the reality of your daily life is created, by you, from within. Everything you manifest or don’t manifest in your life flows directly from the way you perceive things.
Our moment-to-moment experience is the direct result of our perception. So, whether we’re feeling inspired or depressed; blessed or burdened, is not the product of the circumstances we find ourselves in.
In reality, our happiness has nothing to do with the behavior of those around us. But it has everything to do with the way we are choosing to perceive the people and circumstances around us.
When you really understand just how powerful your perspective is, you will never feel like a victim again. Or, if you do, you’ll very quickly be able to put yourself back into the driver’s seat of your own life.
This may sound like a big statement, so let’s break it down.
Your perspective – meaning, the way you choose to look at things – directly impacts every dimension of your being. It influences your mood, your attitude, your expectations, your beliefs, your thoughts, your emotions, and ultimately, your actions. And of course, your actions determine the results and outcomes you create.
It’s like a domino effect. The last domino to fall represents the results you create or don’t create in your life. But that whole sequence of events starts with the way you’re perceiving whatever situation you currently find yourself in.
So for example, if you perceive that your co-workers are critical or unaccepting of you, this perception will directly impact your mood. Depending on how you’re wired, this perception may lead you to feel defensive, defeated, or sad. Or you might feel indignant, angry, determined to win their approval, or a whole other range of other moods and emotions.
This mood or emotion then influences your thoughts, and your habitual thoughts harden into beliefs. And all of this affects the actions you take or are too afraid or discouraged to take.
And so, this entire cascade of reactions – what we call the process of creation – begins with your perception. Perception is everything because it affects every stage of manifestation that comes after it.
Principle #2: There are two primary perspectives available in every moment.
As human beings, we are born with the gift of free will. Which means we can choose to look at life through our human eyes, or through the eyes of the divine.
Our human perspective is often one of limitation, constriction, scarcity, and pessimism. This is because all of us have had painful or contrasting experiences in our lives that left impressions on us, psychologically and energetically. And at any moment in time, we can choose to view our present reality through the lens of our past wounding. And when we do, possibilities shrink, we feel terrible, and the world looks like a hostile place.
But when we choose to view life through the eyes of the universal intelligence that creates and sustains all things, an entirely different picture of reality is revealed.
The divine perspective is always looking for possibilities and solutions.
It sees the opportunities and resources that are always a part of whatever situation we find ourselves in.
When we consciously look through the perspective of the divine, we become a magnet for all cooperative energies, ideas, and resources that can support our greatest joy.
The final principle to help you embrace that perspective is everything is this:
Principle #3: You have the power to choose your perception on purpose.
The circumstances you find yourself in do not have to control the way you feel. Rather, you have the power to affect your own mood and attitude by deliberately choosing your perspective.
In any moment, you can make the choice to bring into yourself a higher, more hopeful vibration. You can make an effort to view any situation from a more positive vantage point. In every moment, you have the power to decide between giving into fear or choosing faith.
A great way of immediately shifting your perspective is to ask yourself, “What would love to have happen in this situation?” or, “What can I find to appreciate about this situation as it exists right now?”
By virtue of the direction of your focus, you’re either nourishing your fears or your desires.
And when you realize you’re more aware of what you don’t want than what you do, deliberately recalibrate your focus.
Engaging the power of your perspective takes a little practice, and it takes a little discipline to not automatically give in to thoughts of lack or scarcity. But the more you play with shifting your perspective on purpose, the more powerful of a deliberate creator you will know yourself to be.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
Thoughts create reality. This is a universal, metaphysical principle. Thoughts trigger emotions, which either spur us into action or lull us into inaction. And, of course, our actions culminate in the outcomes we manifest and don’t manifest in our lives.
Let’s examine the journey of a single thought.
Think back to the last time you caught yourself rehashing an unpleasant situation or reliving an encounter that hurt, disappointed, or annoyed you. Examining this experience will bring to light two very important things about how thoughts create.
First, the more airtime you give to any thought, the more vivid and detailed it becomes. And second, the mind cannot tell the difference between a thought about something “real,” and a thought about something remembered or imagined.
The thoughts we think flood our minds with images that have the power to trigger the entire range of our human emotions. They can lead us on an upward spiral of hopefulness and elation, or a downward spiral of cynicism and despair. Our thoughts are like seeds, and our minds are like a fertile plot of soil. In the same way a seed blossoms into a flower or a weed, our thoughts create. And the quality of what we manifest in our lives is always a reflection of the quality of the thoughts we think.
Thoughts create by generating vibrations.
The fact is, every thought we think, every image we conjure, even every memory we revisit from our past, causes a change in our vibration. Some thoughts and images cause our vibration to soar, while others cause our vibration to plummet. You know this from your own personal experience.
Most people give others the credit or the blame for fluctuations in their own personal vibration. But the fact is, each of us is responsible for our own energetic atmosphere. After all, we are the only ones with the power to choose our own thoughts. And we alone choose our own mindset.
You can choose the direction of your thoughts – AKA your mindset – on purpose.
Our mindset determines whether we see the proverbial glass as half full or half empty. It informs whether we think we can or can’t do something. Our mindset can lure us into a downward spiral where it feels like everything that is going wrong or guide us along an upward spiral of appreciation as we acknowledge all that is going right. Mindset determines our perspective, our attitudes, our emotions, and – as a result – the outcomes we ultimately create.
The mindset you hold about every important subject in your life is like a personal weather system that you carry with you everywhere you go.
It’s made up of the combined energy of your thoughts, your imaginings, your moods, your expectations, and your beliefs. But unlike the weather, you have control of the energetic atmosphere in which you live. And as such, you can choose to reside in the vibration of prosperity, even when others are choosing lack.
You can choose faith, even before there is evidence that warrants it. You can choose empowerment, even when those around you are marinating in victimhood. Everything begins with the direction of your thoughts because thoughts create reality. Exercising this all-important choice is the secret to living your best life, and to manifesting everything that you desire.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
You have the power, right now, to step into any reality you desire to experience – including the reality of abundant success. How exactly is this possible? It’s possible because energy is at the essence of every experience, and the birthplace of every manifestation.
First, let’s consider what success really is… and what it’s not.
Most of us have some pretty limited notions about what it means to be successful. We might equate it with a particular condition, such as having a lot of money. Or we may think of success as a “one-day” goal, such as starting a family or opening a business. But by thinking in these terms, it’s nearly impossible to step into success, because we perceive it as a future event. But if instead, we think in terms of energy, we discover that the energy of success is available, here and now.
Success is not a far-out goal. It’s not a “one-day” destination we’re striving to reach. It’s not a collection of favorable circumstances or a position of status. Like all things, success is an energy. And because energy is the most abundant, renewable resource in our universe, you can step into success anytime you desire.
These 3 energy mastery practices allow you to step into success by magnetizing success energy into your life.
Success Practice #1: Define what success means to you, specifically.
Each of us will define success in our own terms, according to our own values, unique interests, and goals. And so, to step into success, it’s important to take some time to really delve into what this means to you.
You might define success as working for yourself – or for a company that provides retirement and paid time off benefits. You may visualize success as having an abundance of money, influence, or creative license. Or you might be someone who equates success with health, family, or personal fulfillment.
Regardless of how you visualize external success, it’s always marked by an internal experience of happiness, joy, aliveness, and abundance. And this brings us to the second practice for stepping into success.
Success Practice #2: Distill your vision of success down to a single energetic quality.
At the essence of every desired experience is our desire to feel a certain way. And so, to step into success, you want to identify the essential quality that you believe success will give you access to.
One of the fastest ways to identify this quality is to bring to mind your vision of success. And then ask yourself the following question:
What kind of person could easily create this?
For example, let’s suppose that your vision of success is to own your own company. If this is the case, you would then want to ask yourself, “What kind of person could easily own and operate their own company?”
The answer to this question will differ for everyone who asks it – again because we all define success in different terms.
You might decide that an inspired person could easily own and operate their own company. Or a passionate person. Or a fiercely independent person.
There are no right or wrong answers. You simply want to ask the question and notice what arises. Because your answer to this question will lead you right into the energy of success. And tapping into this energy stream is the key to stepping into success.
Success Practice #3: The final practice for stepping into success is to consciously embody the energy of the quality that you associate with success.
You already know that energy is the birthplace of all things. Everything that exists in our manifested universe began as a thought, an idea, a desire. And thoughts, ideas, and desires are nothing but energy that has been set into motion.
The energy of success is readily available – now and always. To step into it, allow yourself to imagine what the particular quality of success you desire might feel like. And then imagine wearing that energy like you would a beautiful new piece of clothing.
Most people do not allow themselves to imagine the outcomes they desire before they are realities. But stepping into success requires us to think, feel, and experience beyond the limitations of our current, already-manifested reality.
So give yourself permission to dream bigger than the conditions you currently find yourself in. And allow yourself to connect with the unconditional essence of the success you desire. This is the secret to stepping into success, and to magnetizing any reality, you wish to bring about.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
Your degree of awareness – and your degree of mastery in consciously directing your awareness – determines the speed of your manifestations. And by becoming aware of your energy before you take action, you can attract success in every aspect of your life.
The first step is to become aware of the direction of your chronic thoughts.
Imagine you’re a lawyer or a private detective and begin to notice the typical direction of your most common thoughts.
You’ll likely discover that on some subjects, your thoughts flow pretty naturally to appreciation and positive expectation. But on some other subjects that you experience as more difficult, your thoughts easily spiral into anxiety or frustration. Becoming aware of the habitual direction of your thoughts is the first vital step to changing your point of attraction.
Begin a daily practice of observing the direction that your thoughts typically flow. When do they most naturally lean toward the positive? And in what situations or interactions do they start to take a less beneficial turn?
Again, becoming aware of your usual patterns of thoughts is so incredibly helpful. A good fisherman is an avid student of weather patterns and tides. And in the same way, awareness of your own thought currents is key to successfully navigating them.
And when you become aware that your thought currents are leading you in an unwanted direction, don’t panic. Simply pause, close your eyes, and breathe.
Recognize that like the ocean tides, our thoughts are constantly shifting and changing. And by bringing awareness to this dynamic process, you open up new channels and pathways.
It may help to imagine that you are sitting on the bank of a river watching your thoughts float by. You don’t need to climb aboard every boat that passes by. Just remain a witness to them. And when you encounter a thought that diminishes your mood, know that you don’t need to fight against it.
Rather than arguing with negative thoughts, or trying to stop thinking them, just acknowledge them and permit them to move on. Imagine saying to them, “Thank you for that perspective! I’m headed in a different direction, but I wish you well along your way.” Unless we actively rail against them, negative thoughts have a way of dissolving all on their own.
The second dimension of your being to become aware of is your habitual or chronic feelings.
When we’re unaware of the momentum of our thoughts, we find ourselves in bad-feeling emotional states without knowing how we got there.But with awareness, you can interrupt this negative feedback loop and regain control over your point of attraction.
Your moment-by-moment feeling states exist at a deeper dimension of your consciousness than your thoughts, which are more surface. So to become aware of them, you can again use your breath – but this time to tune into what’s happening in your body.
Do you feel a sensation of lightness, openness and ease, or of tightness and contraction? Does your breath move fully and fluidly, or does it seem to get blocked in your stomach, chest, or throat? Your body keeps perfect score of your emotional states. This means you can always tune in to your body to become more aware of what’s happening with you emotionally.
When you notice resistance or blockage in your emotional body, know this is temporary and no cause for alarm.
Emotions are simply energy in motion. And like water moving through a stream, your emotions are always flowing and changing. By becoming aware of this flow, you can gradually guide the current into a better feeling direction.
You’ll find it helps to remember times of greater ease, or to call forth memories or imaginings that evoke happiness and joy. Then once you’ve used your awareness to settle the waters of your emotions, consider how you’d like to feel.
What is the bottom line, essential emotional state you are reaching for in this moment? Is it one of soothing, of relaxation, of clarity or of inspiration? With your awareness and intention, you can begin to conjure these vibrational states on purpose. And once you notice that the tide of your emotional state has begun to shift, do everything you can to keep that new momentum going!
Conjure thoughts and memories that enhance and sustain your new point of attraction. Send appreciation to yourself for becoming more aware of your vibration. Rest in a meditative, aware state until this new frequency feels stable and solid. Once you feel grounded in this higher vibration, you’re ready to attend to the 3rd dimension of your consciousness.
The third dimension of your being to become aware of is the energy that underlies your actions.
Most people act automatically and reflexively, with little regard for the energy behind their actions. But unless you become aware of what’s driving you to act, your actions may actually take you out of alignment with your desires.
As awareness sets every manifestation into motion, action is the culmination of that initial awareness. So, take some time to consider your thoughts, your mood, and your current point of attraction – before you act.
Actions that are not backed up by energetic alignment scatter our energy and waste our resources. But actions that are inspired by an alignment in thought, mood and frequency produce effortlessly wonderful results.
The bottom line…
The next time you’re feeling off-balance, remember these 3 points of awareness. Notice your chronic thoughts and allow the unbeneficial ones to simply pass you by. Drop into your body and heart and notice how you’re feeling. Breathe into the essence of what you desire. Find the flow of that energy and allow it to build momentum. And when all of this awareness culminates in a desire to act, do so with confidence and positive expectation!
Becoming aware of these 3 levels of your being is the key to manifesting your desires in all areas of your life.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
Is it possible to maintain your mood, your clarity, and your focus in the presence of difficult people?
Absolutely it is! But to accomplish this, you need a working understanding of energy and vibration, for these form the basis of everything.
Here are 3 energy mastery principles to help you remain centered around difficult people.
Energy Mastery Principle #1: You and you alone are in control of your own vibration.
There is only one reason why you might resist, avoid, judge, or feel bad around difficult people: It’s because you believe they hold the power to diminish your mood and down your vibe. And, in all fairness, it’s perfectly understandable that you would come to this conclusion.
Human beings are energy transmitters and receivers, which means we are naturally sensitive to energy. And so, not only do we pick up on the moods of other people, but we often unconsciously harmonize with those moods.
This is great news if we’re surrounded by people who are inspired, exhilarated, forward-looking, and clear. But it can be very bad news when we run into difficult people who don’t seem to care about the energy they are sending out.
But the fact is, we are each in charge of our won energy alignment. Regardless of how it seems, we are the only ones who can put ourselves in a good mood. And we are the only ones who can deviate from it.
Think about it: Can anyone besides you put a thought in your mind? Can anyone besides you create tension or ease within your body? When you’re honest with yourself, you’ll realize the answers to these questions is no.
Yes, those you think of as difficult people can and do broadcast discordant vibrations. And yes, difficult individuals can invite you into a lower frequency of consciousness. And clearly, difficult people carry on all manner of unpleasant conversations.
But at the end of the day, we are the ones who have to opt in to these lower vibrations. And we do this by choosing to give our focus to unwanted energies.
And this brings us to the next important energy mastery principle:
Energy Mastery Principle #2: You have the power – and the right – to turn your focus away from difficult people.
In every situation and interaction, there are an infinite number of things you can choose to give your attention to. And how, where, and with what intensity you direct your focus has everything to do with how good you feel.
For example, you could focus on the moment-by-moment unfolding of a particularly unpleasant conversation or event. You could listen intently to every word and watch with great interest as things unfold that do not please you. But once you understand that where your attention goes, energy flows, you realize that this is a really unwise choice! So instead, reclaim your power to direct your focus and actively turn your attention towards something more pleasing.
In other words, when your energy body registers negativity to someone else, use this as a cue to return your attention to yourself.
For example, what areas of your life are going exceptionally well? What recent experiences did you derive joy from? What are you most grateful for, or looking forward to?
By deliberately turning your attention to more pleasant things, you separate yourself from difficult people and stop unwanted momentum. Then you stop being so influenced by the energy around you and become more masterful at generating your own vibration. This is an essential skill to build if you’re interested in feeling good even when others are trying to bring you down.
Energy Mastery Principle #3: Make it a habit to choose your mood, your attitude – and therefore, your vibration – in advance.
You’d never stumble into a job interview or first date without preparing yourself a little in advance, right? Well, in the same way, it’s a great practice to prepare your energy body in advance of any new interaction. This means taking the time to tune yourself to the types of feelings and experiences you’re committed to creating.
When you’re about to interact with someone you’ve experienced as difficult, carve out time to prepare your mood beforehand. Imagine filling yourself up with the energies of joy, expansion, clarity and ease. Take a few deep breaths, and literally feel these energies expanding your consciousness and raising your vibration. The higher you raise your frequency ahead of time, the more you’ll be able to sustain it. And this is the key to maintaining your mood, your clarity and your vibe even when you’re with difficult people.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
