How to gracefully navigate contrast is one of the most common questions people bring up with The Council. And this is for good reason. Because with this single piece of understanding, you access the power to exponentially expand your happiness levels. As a jumping-off point into this important conversation, please consider the recent quote offered by spiritual guides Abraham-Hicks:
“Desirer’s remorse is having a desire but not maintaining the vibrational frequency of it. You are letting the reality that you are observing control your vibrational atmosphere, and therefore you are not staying up to speed with your own desire. Your desire isn’t wrong. You didn’t make a mistake. You just didn’t stay up to speed with your desire.”
As this Abraham-Hicks quote suggests, desire is one of the most powerful creative forces in the universe. Your wanting summons life force itself, and magnetizes the energy that creates worlds to you and through you.
But what most don’t yet understand is that the moment a desire is born within us, three things happen simultaneously:
First, we are able to see and feel with laser-sharp clarity exactly what it is we want.
Second, our desire mobilizes and magnetizes to us the exact resources we need to bring it to fruition.
And third, desire heightens our awareness that what we’re asking for is not yet a part of our experience.
This means that once we experience the contrast of having manifested something unwanted, we have just one, vitally important task: To bring our personal vibration up to speed with the expanded reality that we’ve asked for.
Here are 3 energy mastery steps to activate the wisdom of the Abraham-Hicks quote referenced above.
By applying these 3 steps, your perspective of any situation will transform from, “Why is this happening to me?” to “Thank God this is happening for me!”
Step #1: Give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you’re feeling.
We live in a universe that is based on attraction. And this means the energies of resistance and refusal only serve to bring to us more of what we don’t want.
When an unwanted situation presents itself, it does no good to pretend to feel okay about it if you feel bad. If you doubt this, just think back to a time when you tried not to feel sad, angry, or afraid. What you’ll quickly realize is that resisting what is simply doesn’t work. The Abraham-Hicks quote points out that contrast arises when we are not up to speed with our own desire. And our resistance is the only thing keeping us from vibrating in harmony, rather than in discord.
So, what can you do the next time you find yourself resisting or feeling bad about something that’s happening in your experience? Simply take a quiet moment to connect with the emotion that’s present within you. Close your eyes, take some long, slow deep breaths, and do your best to welcome whatever is happening without judgment.
Continue to breathe into the feeling, and notice that it’s simply energy that hasn’t been given permission to flow. And as you gently hold your awareness on the sensation, you’ll notice that this energy is not solid or fixed. All energies exist in a constant state of flux.
As you grant your feelings permission to exist and embrace rather than resist them, they begin to dissipate and release. Remember that energy is never created or destroyed, it simply changes form. Your allowing is what enables your resistance to release and your vibration to rise.
Step #2: Consciously bring in the energy of compassion.
Self-compassion is an essential step in creating any type of shift in energy and perspective. And this means letting go of any self-judgment when our experience falls short of our desires.
Judgment is a defensive stance that deflects the very happiness you’re seeking. But when you offer loving kindness toward yourself and others, you’re in a much better position to receive.
Do your best to view your life experiences through the eyes of compassion. Nothing went wrong — it was all part of your journey as a human. After all, you could never experience pleasure if you had never known pain. You wouldn’t value security had you not experienced feeling insecure.
Every experience contributes in some important way to your expansion, and to you becoming the person you most want to be. In living something unwanted, you have given birth to a powerful desire for what you do want.
Step #3: Deliberately bring in the energy that you now desire to reside in.
As this Abraham-Hicks quote points out, contrast is one of the most powerful forces in all the universe. This is because the contrast of having lived something unwanted is where clarity about what you do want is born. So, once life has shown you what you don’t want, turn your full attention toward what it is you desire.
What new awareness, understanding, or appreciation do you now possess as a direct result of living this contrast? What do you now desire to create? Simply allow more of your attention to be focused more on the new desire than on the incident that gave birth to it. This is the secret to utilizing contrast in the way it was intended: as a jumping-off point toward whatever we wish to create next and to draw that experience into our lives from the inside out.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
It’s true… parenting can sometimes suck! When our energy fields are depleted or misaligned, our kids have a way of reflecting back to us our own inner chaos. But by taking responsibility for our personal alignment, we generate a vibration of harmony that ripples throughout our households and our lives.
Here are 3 more energy mastery practices for re-balancing and replenishing your own energy reserves.
Practice #4: Utilize your power of focus.
Our power of focus is so enormous because what we focus on expands and becomes more in our reality. We attract evidence of what we already believe to be true.
Have you ever noticed that your kids act differently when they’re in the home of one of their friends, or when they’re playing sports, or even when they’re in the classroom, than they do with you? This has everything to do with the power of focus. If you focus on all the ways parenting sucks, the universe will knock itself out bringing you experiences that confirm this expectation!
Different expectations create different results. A good athletic coach steps onto the field with the expectation of bringing out the best in his or her athletes. An effective teacher brings to his or her classroom the expectation of inspiring her students’ love of learning.
To be an energy master is to use the power of our focus to deliberately notice, accentuate and encourage that which we want to create.
And yet, how often as parents do we unwittingly expect the worst from our kids? How often do we dwell on their past mistakes or focus on what they haven’t done, rather on what they have?
To apply the power of focus to your relationship with your kids, make it a practice to think about all that you appreciate about them. Keep a running list of all their positive aspects. Do your best to be generous with, and genuine with, your praise and acknowledgment of all they’re doing right. Take a time out from housework or to-do lists, and simply be with them and appreciate all the joy they’ve brought into your life. And then watch to see how your kids rise to the level of appreciation you’re flowing to them. What you focus on expands.
Practice #5: Establish clear boundaries.
Dictionary.com’s definition of a boundary is “something that indicates a border or limit.” A boundary is simply a demarcation that we create around us to let ourselves and others know what we are willing to accept and what we are not. It’s a way of marking our space and creating a standard of what we expect.
Your boundaries are an extension of your vision of yourself as a parent. And this is why it’s essential to begin with a clear vision of who we want to be and the type of energy we want to promote in our households. If we skip this step, we will most likely have no idea what our boundaries are until they’ve been violated in some way. This type of reactive parenting sucks in every way!
To create effective boundaries, begin by making sure you’re connected to the “why” behind each boundary. “Because I said so” does not provide a clear and compelling “why!” Your “why” is the end feeling result you hope to achieve. If you set a boundary that the dinner table is a cell phone-free zone, you want to ask yourself why this is important to you. Most likely, it stems from your desire for peace and quiet, or for meaningful connection.
The more connected you are to your “why,” the more cooperation you’ll elicit from those around you.
The next step in creating effective boundaries is to communicate your “why” to your child in a way that is meaningful to him or her. And again, the more you can focus on what is wanted, rather than on what is not wanted, the more effective you’ll be.
Lastly, the boundaries we set will only be effective if we’re consistent with them. If you’re going to bend the rules from time to time – on school vacations or while traveling, for example – make sure you communicate this to your kids.
Boundaries are incredibly useful structures that keep us on track as parents and help our kids to understand our expectations of them as well.
Practice #6: Create the vibration of your household intentionally, not by default.
As the leader of your family, you have a critically important choice to make. You get to choose whether to be the deliberate creator of the vibrational atmosphere of your home or a reactor to it. The first choice will leave you feeling empowered. The second choice will leave you feeling that parenting sucks.
An average person places his or her happiness in the hands of other people, believing that “If only my son would be more respectful, or if only my daughter would listen to my advice, then I’d feel relieved; then I would be happy.” As energy masters, we actively seek out the bottom-line feeling we think we need other people’s cooperation to achieve and intentionally generate that feeling within ourselves.
To become a more deliberate creator in your household, identify some aspect of your relationship with your kids that you would like to be different.
Then ask yourself, “How would I feel if I succeeded in changing this condition?” What is the core, bottom-line emotion you are striving for?
And then, use that information to become the deliberate creator of your own reality by asking yourself, “What can I do right now to generate that feeling within myself?”
Remember, energy comes first, then manifestation. Flow your energy on purpose, and parenting will no longer suck. Everything and everyone in your life responds in turn to the energy you are flowing.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
You’d never embark on a long road trip with an empty gas tank. And yet, how many times do we engage our kids empty of tranquility, patience, and emotional resilience? I call this “running on empty,” and it just doesn’t work, either in the short or the long run. We cannot pour from an empty cup. We can’t provide an environment of love, guidance, compassion, and optimism for our kids if we’ve been depriving ourselves of those things.
In this 2-part blog, I’ll share six powerful energy mastery practices for replenishing your inner resources so you can show up at your best. Because when your energy is aligned and you’re nourished from within, parenting no longer sucks; it’s life-giving.
Practice #1: Prioritize your own alignment.
Most of us were raised with a “Do as I say not as I do,” philosophy, which is based on a deeply flawed premise. Our words and actions have power only when our energy is aligned with them. In the energetic universe in which we live, there is no such thing as faking it. The universe and everything in it – including our kids – does not respond to our words. It responds to our energy.
As parents, we set the energetic tone for our kids and for our households. We are the nucleus from which everything else flows, and therefore our personal alignment must be priority #1.
Prioritizing your alignment means carving out time in your schedule for things that fill you up, inspire you, and balance your energy. This could be meditation, vigorous exercise, or being in nature, or dancing or knitting… The activity itself is not important; how you feel during and after the activity is what matters. The more you fill yourself from the inside out, the less parenting will suck from you, because you’ll be giving from a full cup.
Practice #2: Clarify within yourself the type of parent you desire to be.
Every amazing accomplishment begins with a vision. In the presence of a parenting vision, our words and actions become intentional and guided. Without one, parenting sucks, and we feel like we’re just trying to make it through another day.
To begin clarifying your parenting vision, reflect on your strongest desires at this stage of your parenting journey. What values do you most want to nourish within your family and within your kids? And what daily, weekly or monthly choices could you make in order to bring this vision to fruition?
Your parenting vision is a direct reflection of what you value, and of the type of lifestyle you desire to create. And when your daily choices are aligned with this vision, the natural result is happiness and ease.
Practice #3: Use your emotions as guides.
Contrary to what most of us were told growing up, there are no “good” emotions and “bad” emotions. Emotions are simply energy in motion. In other words, emotions are nothing but vibrational frequencies traveling at different rates of speed. Some frequencies are fast-moving, resistance-free, and therefore pleasurable to experience. Others are slow-moving, laden with resistance, and therefore uncomfortable.
But every emotion – whether painful or pleasurable – carries a message about our inner state of alignment. The better we feel, the more aligned we are. And anytime we feel bad, it’s because we’re giving our attention to some thought, perspective, memory or projection about the future that opposes something we desire to create.
To release any unwanted emotion, begin by allowing yourself to feel whatever it is you’re feeling.
When your children are having an uncomfortable emotion, give them permission to feel and express it. Do your best to suspend judgment. Remind yourself that emotions are simply energy-seeking expressions.
Next, allow yourself to tap into the underlying message that your emotion is trying to convey. What you’ll discover is that “negative” emotions always come bearing a message about what you don’t want, and about what you would prefer instead. Allow yourself to receive this message fully.
Lastly, once you’ve identified what you don’t want, use this information to clarify what you DO want instead. Give all of your attention to that expanded reality, and imagine yourself magnetizing into your experience all harmonic frequencies. Commit yourself to this new vibration, and thank yourself for decoding the evolutionary message encoded within your emotions.
Remember that your children are growing within your vibrational atmosphere. In the same way, you water and fertilize your garden, you must tend to your own personal energy alignment. When you’re aligned within yourself, you attract harmony in all aspects of your life, including with your children.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
Having plenty of time, free-flowing money, fulfilling relationships, creative ideas that flow easily… these are all manifestations of abundance. And all of these experiences are possible for someone who has abundance consciousness.
What is abundance consciousness?
Most people have collapsed the concept of abundance with the specific condition of having plenty of money. But true abundance encompasses far more than only material possessions or luxuries. Satisfaction, fulfillment, joy, ease, happiness, creativity, compassion, freedom, love and well-being… these are all expressions of the essential, internal energy of abundance. When we deliberately cultivate this energy within ourselves, the external manifestations of abundance flow more easily into our lives.
Abundance consciousness is our birthright. It is our divine design. Because there is no end to the universe we live in, there is no end to the possibilities that we can create for ourselves or our lives.
This means there is no end – literally an unlimited supply – of the amount of love, prosperity, joy, adventure, clarity, or joy we can experience. It’s just a matter of how much of that abundance we allow ourselves to claim.
Here are just a few scientific facts about the abundant universe you were born into:
There is so much water combined in the world’s oceans that if you poured it over the United States, it would cover the entire land ninety miles deep.
In the next sixty seconds alone, the sun will generate enough solar power to fill the energy needs of our entire planet for a year.
There are over 200 billion stars in the Milky Way galaxy, which is just one in hundreds of millions of galaxies.
The concept of lack doesn’t exist anywhere in nature. The experience of lack is created in our perception. How we choose to tune our perception determines our experience of reality.
And so, if you’re perceiving the lack of something you desire, you’ll block yourself from seeing evidence of its abundance. For example:
You cannot hold the perspective that you have a shortage of money and in the same moment manifest prosperity.
You can’t perceive a lack of love in your life and attract more love.
You can’t perceive the world as a hostile place and attract demonstrations of harmony and goodwill.
You see, most of us perceive that who we are, what we have, and what we’re doing is not enough. When we look at ourselves and our lives, we focus more on what’s missing than on our many blessings. But, if your perception is that you don’t have enough, you will continue to attract the experience of “not enough.” Remember, the Law of Attraction brings you evidence of what you’re sending out – whether you want it or not.
When our consciousness is aligned with universal abundance, we realize that we are more than enough. In this moment, we are perfect, whole and complete just as we are.
If you take a step back, you’ll quickly see that you have far more sufficiency than lack in your life. You have plenty more to feel satisfied about than to be dissatisfied about. You have far more reasons to feel good than to feel bad.
With just a simple adjustment of focus, you can step into abundance consciousness. Here are 3 steps for shifting your perspective, and claiming your divine inheritance of abundance:
To step into abundance consciousness, feel gratitude for all that you are and all that you have.
Reflect on your life as it is at this moment. What aspects of it do you most appreciate? How many things are going really well for you? What and who brings you joy? Take a moment to thank yourself for having created these things, and to thank the universe for providing them. As you look for the best aspects in every situation, you begin to attract the best from everyone and everything.
To step into abundance consciousness, go beyond the “what” to get to the “why.”
Once you’ve identified what you most appreciate, take this a step deeper by asking yourself why.
For every person, experience, or condition you are grateful for, allow yourself to discover at least 3 reasons why. For example: “I appreciate my husband for being my safe place to land. I am grateful for my husband because he always has my back. I appreciate the way my husband takes care of our family’s well-being.” Discovering the “why” allows you to access the energy of appreciation, and it’s this energy that brings more abundance into your life. It’s not necessary to “count” your blessings. What’s necessary is to feel them, deeply.
To step into abundance consciousness, choose the lens of abundance on purpose.
At the beginning of each day, make the decision to look at life through the lens of abundance rather than lack. Notice the abundance of flowers and trees on your way to work. Notice the abundance of happy, lighthearted people. Feel appreciation for the earth and how it’s sustained by sunshine and rain.
The Law of Attraction will bring you more of what matches your current mood or attitude. Change the lens through which you are perceiving the world, and you will change your reality entirely.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
People often think about the economy like they do about the weather. The presumption is that, in the same way, a rising tide lifts all boats, fluctuations in the economy affect all of us equally. But from an energetic perspective, this notion couldn’t be further from the truth. Because, by virtue of our thoughts, beliefs, interpretations, expectations, and chronic perspectives, we all create our own economy.
The following 3 principles will support you in creating your own economy – one that is governed by sufficiency and abundance.
Principle #1: Be mindful of where you place your attention.
So many of us are completely unintentional when it comes to directing our own attention. A news announcement comes over the airwaves, and we automatically allow it to derail our attention – and our mood. But where and how we direct our attention is incredibly important. In fact, it’s what summons and breathes life into everything we create in our lives.
Learning to mindfully and intentionally direct your attention is the first step to creating your own economy. It leads to increased self-awareness and self-control, enhanced focus, and a reduced reactivity to our bodies’ fight, fight or freeze response. And this means you can enhance your experience of being centered, relaxed and resourceful – no matter what circumstance you find yourself in.
Remember, there are no neutral thoughts. Because thinking is the mechanism that focuses our attention and therefore propels our creative energy into motion. We’re either directing our attention toward the realities we want to come into realization, or toward those that we don’t. We simply can’t give our attention to scarcity and attract abundance. It defies universal law.
Principle #2: Prepare yourself in advance, on an energetic level, to create an economy of abundance.
Your own personal economy need not be tied to what’s going on with the stock market. It’s far more empowering to think of it as a climate of positivity and success you carry with you everywhere you go.
You’ve probably known people who carry themselves with an air of confidence or certainty. These folks know they’re worthy, they know their value, and consequently, they expect things to work out well for them.
When we learn to take responsibility for our own energy field, we can intentionally light up a room when we walk in. We’re able to communicate in such a way that others want to connect and cooperate with us. At the heart of our ability to “shine in a crisis” is being in charge of our own reactions and moods. No matter what’s going on around us, we meet it with a sense of clarity and positive expectation. And as we do, we pull everyone else up to our level.
Creating your own economy of abundance is simply about making the choice to vibrate in resonance with prosperity. It’s choosing to look for evidence of success, regardless of the choices others around you are making for themselves.
To make this actionable, take a pause before each important encounter to consider the outcome you want to create. Carve time out in each day to tend to your inner world. Engage in practices that get your energy moving and uplift your mood. And routinely quiet your mind chatter in order to connect with the highest possibility you can conceive of.
From this stable foundation of inner alignment, you can then intentionally bring forward the energy, attitudes and expectations that will naturally lead to your desired results.
And this brings us to the final principle to understand in order to deliberately create your own economy.
Principle #3: You have the capacity to calibrate your frequency to any outcome you desire to create.
In this vibrational universe, energy always precedes manifestation. Once you understand this, you can adjust your energy intentionally in order to create the best possible results.
Here is a simple formula for calibrating your energy on purpose: First, identify the outcome you’re hoping to achieve. Then, ask yourself, “What kind of person could easily manifest this?”
What inner qualities would support you in creating a personal economy of abundance and high achievement? What inner resources would you need to activate within you? And how would you need to organize your day to ensure you have ready access to those resources?
Creating an internal economy of success is only a matter of bringing forth your highest, most abundant self. It’s making a commitment to nourish that version of you through consciously up-leveling the caliber of your thoughts. And lastly, it’s watching with joyful anticipation as the universe cooperates with the energetic tone you have set.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
Is it possible to remain mentally clear in the midst of chaos and confusion? Can you walk right into an opportunity of a lifetime, with no prior strategy or planning? Can you experience love in a busy airport with a complete stranger? The answer is YES – to all of the above and so much more. Once you know how to raise your frequency to match whatever experience you desire to create, all things become possible.
There are as many different frequencies as there are people on the planet.
Bring to mind the experience of being in love. If you can, recall it not just with your mind and memory, but as a visceral sensation. Notice that even as you do this, your frequency begins to raise.
At first glance, it may seem that the sensation of love is the result of finding ourselves in a perfect set of conditions. Or that maybe our experience of love is based on the promise of a “happily ever after.” But I want to suggest that love – just like clarity, vitality, certainty and all other delicious states of being – is a frequency. And, on the other side of the spectrum, frustration, despair, fear, and powerlessness are also frequencies.
What most people don’t yet understand is that we have the power to raise our own frequency. And, we are also responsible for any unwanted dips in our personal vibration.
Think of the infinite variety of vibrational frequencies like radio signals being transmitted through our airwaves. We all know that there is a huge range of radio signals that are potentially accessible to us in every moment. And we also know that we are only able to hear the transmission that our receivers are tuned to.
With a flip of your radio dial, you have the ability to tune into any program of your choosing. And likewise, you can choose to raise your vibration to harmonize with any experience you desire.
Through the power of your focus, you can raise your frequency on purpose.
There are really only two ways that we can approach any situation that we find ourselves in. We can choose to view it through a lens of what’s lacking, or we can view it through a lens of abundance. And what we focus on, we will find evidence to support.
Through the power of our focus, we are sending out a signal that the entire universe is responding to in every moment.
Someone with a lack-based mindset simply doesn’t have access to the same range of opportunities as someone with a mindset of abundance. And it’s not that these opportunities exist for one and not the other. They are available to all, equally. But it’s a universal law that what we focus on expands.
If we’re focused on lack and limitation, we find a never-ending stream of evidence to support our lack-ful perspective.
And the same goes when we’re grounded in possibility thinking. When we’re surrounded in a frequency of love, we notice others who are vibrating similarly. When we’re appreciating all that we have, we find more and more things to appreciate. By focusing on what’s good, what’s working, and what’s right, you raise your frequency to the level of abundance. And in so doing, you instantly turbocharge your power to magnetize your desires. Everything you desire to manifest is a probability that exists, like a radio wave, within an infinite number of probabilities. And the way to attract, invite, and rendezvous with that reality is to raise your frequency to the frequency of that outcome. The energy you bring to any situation is what determines what that situation will yield to you.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;www.watchyourwords.com.
