always searching for something more

It feels downright horrible to not get something you really want.  And that horrible feeling – while uncomfortable – is normal and even healthy!   This is because we’re designed with the power to fulfill every desire that arises within us.  So naturally, not manifesting an important desire leaves us wanting and unfulfilled.  But if we’re always searching for something more, we bind ourselves to a perpetual cycle of discontent.  And in a state of discontent, we simply can’t attract satisfying experiences.  

Here are 3 limiting beliefs that may be keeping you from a satisfying life because you’re always searching for more.  And an energy mastery shift you can instantly apply to break free from these limiting perceptions:  

Limiting belief #1: You’re always searching for something more because you believe there’s some final destination that you must reach.  

Our desires are continually under revision, because each of us is continually redefining what’s important to us.  And as a result, there is no final destination that once we arrive at will satisfy us forevermore.  Once we reach the top, the “mountain” we’re currently climbing becomes a new starting point for what’s next.  From each new vista, the next desire we wish to fulfill comes into view.     

The energy mastery solution for constant striving is to view yourself as an ever-evolving masterpiece.  

Creating a fulfilling life is not like getting a diploma that hangs forever on the wall, unchanged.  Because you are continually growing and expanding, your definitions of fulfillment will change with every phase you grow through.  Simply stated, the more desires we fulfill, the more desires are born within us asking to be fulfilled.  

Even the term “work in progress” is misleading in this context, because it implies a finish line.  A better way to look at it is that each of us is an evolving masterpiece.  And the ink on our paintings will stay wet for as long as we are alive.   

Anytime you find yourself caught in the search for something more, remind yourself that the most exciting part of manifestation is not the “getting.”  It’s the becoming.   Appreciate yourself for how far you’ve come, and for the clarity your life experiences have given you.  Remember, your life is a joyful journey toward greater self-realization and self-mastery, not a finish line to cross.  

Limiting Belief #2:  You’re always searching for something more, because you believe that you have to control the timeline.    

In the same way that life unfolds in predictable seasons, the manifestation of every desire also occurs in seasons or phases.  Once you understand this process, you can relax into the natural timing of things.   

When you observe something you want and feel that initial rush of excitement, you’re being called toward an expanded reality.  The larger, wiser part of you knows what’s possible for you.  It knows what your next stage of evolution will bring.  That’s why you light up when you come into contact with something that triggers your potential.  

The energy mastery solution for relinquishing control is to appreciate everything that triggered the new desire within you.  

Life is the co-existence of opposite forces. It’s only when we become aware of a limitation that we have the opportunity to grow beyond it.  Within the problem itself lies the solution.  And the faster you bless the problem as a necessary part of the solution, the faster you’ll manifest your desired outcome. 

Limiting belief #3:  You’re always searching for something more because you’re overly fixated on the future.  

You begin a journey toward the future the moment you recognize that you want something different than what you currently have.  Like the proverbial carrot dangling from a stick motivates the mule to keep going, desire also inspires our forward progress.   But what most fail to understand is this is much more than a journey toward getting the thing we want.  It’s a journey of becoming.

Our desires are sparks that come forth from your Divine Self.  They are ignited within you for the purpose of expanding you into all that you are capable of being.  Yet too often, in our search for something more or different, we become fixated on the outer prize and lose sight of our inner evolution.   

Believing that we’ll finally be happy once we reach a certain milestone starts the pattern of always searching for more.    We tell ourselves things like, “Once I get a new boyfriend, then I’ll be happy.”  Or, “When I make more money (or have a baby, or lose weight, or have a home near the water…”).  Striving to meet the next external goal sets us on a lifelong journey toward a destination we can never reach.  And this is the trap we place ourselves in by always searching for more.  

The energy mastery solution for fixating too intently on the future is to drop into gratitude for everything that you already are.  

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with setting future goals to measure our progress against.  But we set ourselves up for disappointment when we postpone our happiness until those goals are realized.  Remember that what you’re really seeking from the fulfillment of any desire is an experience of feeling a certain way.  The sensation of bringing ourselves into energetic alignment with our desires is life-giving.  

If you’re always searching for something more and feeling dissatisfied, take this as a cue to drop deeper into gratitude.  Make a list of all you appreciate about yourself, your life, and your own process of evolution as it exists in this moment.   Remind yourself that you were born into a universe that is continually expanding.  And, as an integral part of this infinite universe, you are expanding right along with it.  Actively surrender into the expansion that your desire is calling you toward.  This is the key to more easily realizing your goals, and to soothing yourself along the way to them. 



Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.  Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships.  You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: