What are your go-to strategies when you want to bolster your sense of inner confidence?
Do you look to your past accomplishments, or to the aspects of your present circumstances that you find most pleasing? Or, do you focus on your positive attributes, doing things to enhance your appearance?
While these are all good short-term strategies, they’re fleeting and unreliable in the long run.
After all, if we’re relying on our good looks for confidence, what do we do on days when we just feel blah? If our confidence comes from excelling at work, what happens if we get a bad review – or get fired?
Outer confidence is only as stable as the conditions that support it. This means, at any moment it can come tumbling down. Inner confidence is the prize we’re truly after.
Here are 3 steps to instantly increase your inner confidence, regardless of your present circumstances:
Step #1: Understand what inner confidence is, and where it really comes from.
There are essentially two types of confidence – outer confidence and inner confidence.
We derive outer confidence from having faith in the external conditions of our lives. For example, you have confidence in your vehicle to get you where you need to go. You’re confident in the strength of your personal relationships. You feel confident in your body’s ability to perform certain actions or accomplish certain tasks.
Because it’s dependent on producing specific results, external confidence naturally fluctuates. Some days we got it, and some days we don’t.
Inner confidence, on the other hand, is an energy we can choose to cultivate and connect to, regardless of the external conditions of our lives. It’s trusting in our own abilities and our capacity to create. Basically, it’s having the belief in ourselves that we have what it takes to meet life’s everyday challenges and demands. Inner confidence is the energy we take with us in every situation. It comes from an understanding that we have the ability to create, and re-create, our lives in each new moment.
Step #2: Reclaim your power of focus.
Your mind is a momentum-generating machine. The thoughts you entertain on a regular basis are taking you down one of two paths. They’re either leading you closer to manifesting the things you desire, or they’re leading you in the opposite direction. And in both cases, you’re in the driver’s seat.
Many of us simply don’t realize that we have ultimate control over how and when and on what we focus. We think that just because something lands on our radar that we owe it our energy and our attention. But we were all born with the priceless gift of free will. And this means that we can choose in every moment how to apply our most precious resource: the power of our focus.
Inner confidence is about giving your precious energy and attention to only those things that nourish you back.
You can’t be focused on the fulfillment of something you desire and feeling doubt about it at the same time.
To use the power of focus to build your inner confidence, spend more time imagining and feeling your desired results into being. When your thoughts begin to dip into the range of doubt, comparison, or discouragement, reel them back in. And if you start seeing your life through a lens of lack, remind yourself of all the abundance that surrounds you.
You can’t give your attention to your doubts and your desires at the same time. You have to pick one or the other. We enhance our inner confidence by choosing to have faith in what we’re creating, even before there’s evidence to support it. And this requires us to exercise our fundamental right to choose the direction of our focus.
Step #3: Focus less on conditions, and more on the feeling state you’re seeking to experience.
This final step requires a pretty radical paradigm shift from the way most of the world thinks about confidence.
It’s a shift in mindset from “When I get the job, I will feel confident,” to “When I align myself with the energy of confidence, I will attract the job.”
Outer confidence is about going after the external result, hoping it will bring us the internal feeling we’re seeking. Inner confidence is created by generating within ourselves the feeling we desire, and from that feeling state, magnetizing what we desire.
The illusion is that in order to feel confident we first have achieved the result. But this is entirely out of sync with the laws of the universe. The way it really works is this: First we conjure the feeling, and then circumstances assemble themselves around that energy.
Take a moment right now to intentionally breathe in the energetic essence of inner confidence. And on your out-breath, release any energy you do not want.
Breathe in ease and flow, and breathe out tension. Breathe in light, and breathe out all doubt or resistance. Breathe in empowerment, and control over your own focus.
The fastest way to increase your inner confidence is to realize that everything comes from within you. You are the attractor of all of your life’s experiences. You are the one who mines the gold – or the scrap metal – from the infinite resources of this universe. Use the power of your focus to connect with the essence of how you desire to feel. And watch as circumstances and events coalesce around the energy that you are sending forth.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her forthcoming book The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is available for pre-order now at www.thedesirefactor.com. She communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: www.watchyourwords.com.
Conversations abound in the personal development space about the importance of finding your purpose. And usually, they revolve around the idea that we’re each born with a gift to contribute to humanity in some way. Our life purpose is sometimes defined as our “dharma,” which translates from Sanskrit as, “right way of living” or “path of rightness.”
But while this definition encompasses some of what it means to find your purpose, it also leaves room for misinterpretation. It’s easy to conclude that there is some universally “right” path that we’re supposed to find our way to. And of course, if there’s a right path, it means there’s also a wrong path.
This way of thinking can cause us to struggle, frustration, and a lot of unnecessary suffering. We waste a lot of energy trying to “find” something that is actually intrinsic to who we are.
Your life purpose doesn’t need to be found; it is intrinsic to who you are.
The first misconception about finding your purpose is that life purpose is something that has to be found. In truth, your purpose already exists and vibrates at the very core of who you are. You feel your purpose come alive when you’re engaged in something that utilizes your most cherished skills. Your purpose is activated when you feel all lit up with interest or enthusiasm. It’s being called into action anytime the clearest, most aligned aspect of you shows up in any given project or interaction. In other words, your purpose is to be aligned. And when you are in alignment, you are fulfilling your highest purpose.
Here are 3 steps for activating the Principle of Alignment to find and express your highest purpose in life.
Step #1: Remember (often) what it feels like to be aligned.
Let’s begin with a definition of terms. By “alignment,” I mean the state of being in which our hearts and minds are in perfect sync with our divine nature. It’s those moments in time when we are at our most creative and resourceful. In the state of alignment, our actions are inspired rather than contrived, and far more effective because they’re backed up by our full spiritual power. There is an unobstructed flow between the physical and nonphysical aspects of us. And this connection yields far greater results than anything we can accomplish from a disconnected state.
You’ve experienced many moments of alignment in your life – though you may not have labeled them as such. You’ve had those days where good luck seems to follow you wherever you go. You know what it feels like to be internally resourceful and resilient, where obstacles either rarely arise or are easily overcome.
Alignment is always accompanied by a feeling of being in the right place at the right time. It’s a feeling of ease and grace; of going with the flow rather than trying to make things happen. The feeling of alignment is exquisite. When we’re aligned, we feel more beautiful and fluid in our bodies. We feel guided, sourced, and blessed. And – because our actions are infused with energy – we accomplish more with less effort.
Of course, some write these experiences off as luck or coincidence. And as a result, they have no idea that alignment is a state of consciousness that can be accessed on purpose. And this is why those who understand energy mastery are at such a distinct advantage.
You can activate alignment on purpose.
Once you understand that alignment is simply a heightened state of consciousness, you can tend to your alignment on purpose.
The best way to go about this is to remember what it feels like to be perfectly in synch. Replay the experiences in your life that had a feeling of grace or flow to them. Relive those moments when everything worked out beautifully. Recall those experiences when you felt absolute faith; when you knew life was happening for you, rather than to you.
The more often you return your consciousness to the state of alignment, the more easily you’ll be able to access this state on purpose. And eventually, alignment will become your energetic set point.
Step #2: Make your personal alignment your number one priority.
You’d never begin a road trip in a car that was low on fuel. And you wouldn’t try to withdraw cash from an account that was in the red. And yet, how many times do we begin a project or conversation from a state of energetic depletion?
The energy you bring into each encounter of your life matters. A lot.
Human beings are both energy transmitters and highly attuned energy receivers. We transmit the energetic frequency of our thoughts and emotions like radio waves. And all those in our energetic vicinity pick up on and respond to the frequencies we’re sending out.
If your mind is racing or your emotions are turbulent, you’ll create vastly different results than you would if you were clear and calm. Aligned energy inspires the best in others and reveals previously unseen solutions. Chaotic energy creates confusion and uncertainty. This is why it’s so important to get into alignment at the start of each day, just as it is to put gas in your car.
Make your alignment part of your daily morning ritual. This is as simple as carving out a few minutes each day for things that feel good. If a hot bath relaxes and recharges you, take one. If going for a walk in the fresh air clears your mind, prioritize that. To those who argue that they don’t have time to get into alignment, I say you don’t have time not to. When you’re in alignment, finding your purpose becomes effortless.
Step #3: Call forth the energy of your “aligned” self in each important aspect of your life.
If you stop to reflect on it, you’ll discover that finding your purpose is different in different aspects of your life. For example, in your career expression, you may desire to be clear-minded and efficient. But your purpose in your intimate relationships might be to experience partnership or to express devotion or lightheartedness.
To discover and fulfill your purpose in each important area of your life, identify the qualities that are most important to you. Then connect with the essence of this energy before you engage.
Before spending time with your kids, for example, align your personal vibration with your intent that your relationship be harmonious, evolving, and fun. If you’re doing something that nurtures your body, begin by connecting with the purpose you desire to achieve. Then imagine filling yourself up with whatever energy you desire at that moment. It could be vitality, stamina, sexuality, relaxation, increased immunity, or any other frequency that will best serve you.
Make it a daily practice to fill yourself up from the inside with the highest, best-feeling frequency you have access to. In this way, you become magnetic to and receptive to everything you desire.
Even if you devote just one minute out of each hour to making sure your actions are aligned with your intent, the cumulative effect of this over time is staggering – and the results you produce will be far more effective. Your purpose unfolds naturally – even joyfully and seemingly magically – from the internal state of alignment.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her forthcoming book The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is available for pre-order now at www.thedesirefactor.com. She communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: www.watchyourwords.com.
By now you understand that your thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, and expectations matter. A lot. Because what you contemplate in the privacy of your own heart and mind transmits a vibration that is received by everything around you. In a very real sense, with every word you speak and every thought you think, you are repeating a manifestation affirmation.
The problem with most people is, they are unknowingly repeating manifestation affirmations that affirm outcomes they don’t actually want to create. Complaining is a manifestation affirmation. So is entertaining worrisome or paranoid thoughts. These actually undermine the very abundance you’re trying to let in.
Instead, use manifestation affirmations to focus on the feeling of abundance. Also, on the qualities that abundance will make available to you. Ponder the emotions and experiences you’ll have greater access to in the presence of abundance. When you focus on the underlying “why” that is inspiring your desire for greater abundance, you are focused on what you want. And you are using a manifestation affirmation to your benefit rather than your detriment.
And, if you’re focused on the fact that you don’t yet have something you want, you’re actually focused in lack. Therefore, you’ll continue to create the same kinds of lack-based situations, people, events and circumstances that you have right now. This applies to whatever you feel you are lacking. Whether it’s a lack of money, support, love, fun, or anything else you might want. Your previous thoughts and beliefs created where you are today. Unless you deliberately change those thoughts and beliefs, you will continue to create more of the same.
Using affirmations is a powerful way to raise your vibration and purify the magnetic signal you are sending out. Here are 5 principles to follow to create manifestation affirmations that support you in creating what you desire:
Principle #1: Manifestation affirmations must be personal, and stated in the present tense.
I recommend beginning every manifestation affirmation with the powerful words, “I am.” This acknowledges, in the present tense, the improved reality that is already in the process of coming into being. For example, “I am abundant,” “I am successful,” “I am creative,” “I am working in a career that I love.”
Principle #2: Your affirmations must be positive.
Make sure your statements are affirming what you want to create, not railing against what you want to move away from! Remember that energy flows where your attention goes. Use your manifestation affirmations to energize, magnetize and state what it is you do want; not what you don’t want.
Principle #3: Your manifestation affirmations must be specific.
The more specifically you are focused on any intended outcome, the more creative energy you summon toward that end.
For example, instead of affirming, “I make a lot of money,” it’s more powerful to affirm, “I make X dollars a year.” Specificity is important because each of us has a different definition for what constitutes “a lot” of money. What does “a lot” of money mean to you? What specifically do you want to create? Affirm it with as much specificity as you can.
Principle #4: Your affirmations must be believable.
The purpose of affirmations is to generate a shift in your energy. Saying them should light you up, energize you, and get your creative juices flowing. The perfect affirmation will shift your comfort zone to a new and exciting place, but won’t evoke fear or doubt.
Don’t set your aim so high that you can’t imagine or accept the outcome you want to accomplish. For example, affirming “I have a million dollars in the bank” if you’re currently in debt will likely trigger doubt and disbelief. In this case, the affirmation is actually working against you rather than for you. Play around with the wording of each of your affirmations until thinking or speaking it evokes excitement and positive expectation.
Principle #5: Remember that the universe responds to your energy, not to your words.
Your manifestation affirmation is simply a tool for creating a shift in your energy. It will help you to embrace the sensation of what it feels like have, be or do what you are now affirming. This shift in energy is what energizes and magnetizes your desires to you. The words are just the vehicle for starting this process.
As you speak each of your manifestation affirmations, pay attention to the sensations that are triggered within you. And use the words to leapfrog into the experience of already living the reality you desire to create. Another way of saying this is to first speak the affirmation, and then step into the feeling place of owning that affirmation. Spend time imagining, reflecting, and feeling what’s like to be abundant, creative, successful – or whatever specific outcome you desire.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her forthcoming book The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is available for pre-order now at www.thedesirefactor.com. She communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: www.watchyourwords.com.
The principles of energy cleansing are simple, and because they’re universal, you can apply these healing rituals to virtually any aspect of your life. Rituals for cleansing your home work equally well for clearing your energetic body or aura, or even recharging a relationship.
Let’s begin by exploring the nature of energy, and how it becomes stagnant, or “toxic,” in the first place.
It’s all about energy.
We now know that everything within this seemingly material universe, ourselves included, is made up of energy.
What appears to your senses as solid matter is simply energy, vibrating at different rates of speed. Your ears translate sound waves into hearing. Your eyes translate light waves into sight. But nothing material actually exists. And this means that the “stuff” that makes up the entire universe is actually not stuff at all. It’s energy.
Energy is the currency of life. It’s the force that animates all things. When it’s flowing through you with the inhalation and exhalation of each breath, the doctors proclaim you alive. And when the energy that creates all things stops flowing through you, they pronounce you dead.
This universe and every physical being living within it is all sourced by this non-physical energy. And whether you refer to it as Life Force, Infinite Intelligence, Mother Nature, Source, Spirit, Soul, or God makes no difference whatsoever. This energy is the force that breathes you, that gives you life and sustains you through this lifetime and beyond. It’s the boundless supply of everything you could possibly need or desire.
What causes energy alignment of misalignment?
In our balanced and aligned state, universal or divine energy moves to and through us in an effortless, un-resisted flow. In our bodies, this means we easily receive the creative impulses that, when followed, promote our health and wellbeing. Mental and emotion alignment means we’re able to acknowledge the ebb and flow of our feelings, and benefit from the guidance they provide.
But when our physical or mental energies are blocked or misaligned, this communication between our physical and non-physical selves is interrupted. We do not easily receive guidance or inspiration, or if we do, we have trouble interpreting or acting on it. A state of lethargy, confusion, or hyperactivity, such that you feel like you’re “spinning in circles,” are all indications of energetic imbalance.
Our homes are an extension of our physical, mental and emotional selves. And as such, they reflect our internal state of alignment or misalignment. By improving the energy flow in your home, you can cause a transformation in your physical, mental and emotional health as well. Here are 3 healing rituals that will help you to bring this transformation about:
Healing Ritual #1: Purge your space of clutter and unwanted items.
The first principle of energy alignment is to release that which is no longer serving us. This goes for outdated or limiting beliefs, toxic relationships, or even foods that disagree with us. Anything that interrupts the effortless feedback loop between your human self and your divine nature will cause an energy imbalance.
If your home is filled with unwanted or forgotten items, those items take up space and prevent the life force from circulating freely. They also keep you anchored to the past and make it more difficult for new opportunities to be drawn into your experience. In clearing out the old, you make space in your life and home for a new frequency of energy.
Author and space-clearing expert Marie Kondo offers a simple healing ritual to distinguish items that are life-giving from those that are not. She recommends touching each of your belongings one by one in order to feel whether it “sparks joy” within you. If it does, then dust it off and energetically welcome it into your home. If it does not spark joy, thank it for having been a part of your life, then pass it on to someone else who can enjoy it.
This principle also applies to clothing, relationships – even to the forms of media and entertainment you commonly interact with.
Remember that everything carries a frequency. If you are not feeling, looking, or functioning at your highest, it’s time to become more discerning about the influences around you.
Nature abhors a vacuum. Clearing away that which is no longer serving us is an important healing ritual for eliminating toxic energy at all levels of our being.
Healing Ritual #2: Create sacred space.
We live in an energetic universe, and we are each extensions of the nonphysical energy that both created and sustains us. You may not be consciously aware of this connection, but your alignment with your source is at the basis of every exalted or inspired moment. It is the basis of joy, of radiant health, and of unbounded energy.
Creating sacred space is a powerful healing ritual used to welcome a higher frequency of energy into your life. The space you create can be tangible – like dedicating a portion of your home as a retreat to restore your alignment. Fill this space with things that center and recharge you, such as candles, crystals, pictures, or plants.
Sacred space can also be something you create on a subtle or intangible level. For example, you can play uplifting music. You might open all the windows of your home occasionally and allow the fresh breeze to sweep through. You can also smudge your home with sage, frankincense or lavender and allow the aroma to raise the vibration. Dance, sing, or tone to imbue your space with joy. The healing ritual of creating sacred space raises the frequency of your home, which raises your personal vibration as well.
Healing Ritual #3: Deliberately invite in the quality of energy you now wish to reside in.
As human beings, we are constantly growing, evolving and expanding. And this naturally means that our desires are also in a state of constant evolution.
What brings you joy today may be quite different than what brought you joy 5 years or even 5 months ago. With this in mind, perform the healing ritual of inviting in the energy that you now wish to reside in.
I recommend visiting each room of your home and asking yourself gently, “what quality of energy do I want to emanate from this space?” And you’ll find that you naturally crave a different quality of energy for each living space.
For example, you may choose a vibe of clarity, efficiency or creativity for your home office. Vibrancy and vitality may be the frequency you desire to feel when you step into your kitchen. And your bedroom may call for a different mood entirely, depending on what you desire at this particular time in your life.
Know that you are an energetic being – quite literally an energy transmitter and receiver – and you have the ability to change the frequency of any space you enter.
Simply identify the quality of energy you desire, and call it to and through you. Invite in the energy of serenity, of productivity, of inspiration, and feel it anchoring through you and into the room you’re in.
To take this healing ritual one step further, you can ask yourself for a physical object that reflects the quality of energy you desire. For example, rose quartz is used in Feng Shui as a symbol of romance and love.
Purging outworn objects, creating sacred space, and deliberately anchoring high-flying energy into your home are all powerful healing rituals. Apply these in your living spaces, and your home will become a perfect match to all you desire to create.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her forthcoming book The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is available for pre-order now at www.thedesirefactor.com. She communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: www.watchyourwords.com.
Learning to live in the moment is critical to manifesting the desires you hold most dear. And this is because your only point of power is in the now.
In each new moment, you are offering a vibration to which the entire universe is responding. Right here, right now, you are making a critical choice to carry over yesterday’s perceptions, conclusions, and hurt feelings, or to start fresh. You make the choice to rehash past failures or to focus your attention deliberately toward what you want to create. When you live in the moment with deliberate intent, you view everything that’s happened in the past as an ally rather than a hindrance.
Here are 3 daily practices to help you live more consciously in the moment:
Live in the Moment Practice #1: Reclaim the energy you have scattered in the future and in the past.
Tying up your energy in either the past or the future drastically diminishes your power to create in the present moment.
Reliving past disappointments blinds you to present possibilities. Likewise, if you’re constantly striving for a better future, you’ll deny yourself the pleasure of enjoying what is. In this case, life becomes a constant struggle to achieve more, better and different conditions. And in so doing, we forsake the incredible happiness that’s available to us in the moment.
Carrying the past into the present has equally devastating results. Basically, it’s permitting the fact that you haven’t yet manifested something you desire to dictate what’s possible for you going forward.
Rather than repeating the past, you can mine the gifts of the past.
For example, let’s say that historically, you and your spouse have always butted heads about a particular issue. If you choose to relive all of the past conflicts and brace yourself for more turmoil, you’re simply unavailable for things to turn out any other way.
Instead, you could make the choice to live in the moment. You could take some deep breaths and consciously leave the past in the past, taking with you only the clarity of what is wanted.
In this instance, what you desire might be a feeling of harmony between you. Or a spirit of cooperation, understanding, respect, or appreciation. There is no one-size-fits-all answer because each of us gives birth to unique desires based on the unique experiences we’ve lived.
To realize the full benefit of living in the moment, mine from your past the wisdom of what you now desire, then give your undivided attention to what you want to create. Don’t split the potency of your creative energy by thinking about what’s gone wrong in the past. Instead, give in to the freshness of this present moment. As the Greek philosopher, Heraclitus noted, “You can’t step into the same river twice, because new water is always flowing in.”
Every new moment is a brand new opportunity to create what you desire. To make the most of this opportunity, remind yourself of what you desire in each situation you enter. Breathe in the energy of the reality you want to create. And then, fully anchored in and living in the present moment, look for evidence that what you desire is already in the process of manifesting around you.
Live in the Moment Practice #2: Focus on what’s good enough, what’s sufficient, and what’s satisfying about this present moment.
How often do we diminish the joy of living in the moment by focusing on what’s wrong with the present?
It seems to be our human preset to automatically notice what’s wrong, what’s missing, or what could be going better in just about every interaction. And when we’re focused on what is not yet satisfying, our personal vibration is laden with resistance, angst, and yearning. Then, even though we desperately want things to turn out differently, we end up pushing away the very outcomes we desire to create.
Viewing life from the lens of lack and insufficiency is torturous. First, it deprives us of the incredible benefit of aligning our energies with our desire. And second – and even more costly – in focusing on lack, we deprive ourselves of the joy of the present moment.
But by redirecting your attention from what’s missing to the presence of abundance and appreciation within you, we can shift your entire point of attraction.
Your point of attraction is your most powerful, in-the-moment resource.
Your point of attraction is the sum total of the thoughts, beliefs, and emotions you are broadcasting in each new moment. When your thoughts are flying high and your mood is joyful, it’s because your point of attraction is, at that moment, aligned with your desires. And when your experience is one of doubt, despair, or frustration, these emotions simply indicate that you’re at cross-purposes with your own desire.
Your point of attraction is the most powerful resource you have in each new moment of your life. It’s like a lighthouse shining a signal that brings home every desire floating out there in the sea of pure potentiality – or prevents it from ever reaching the shore. Your point of attraction determines whether you generate upward momentum or downward spirals. It invites either open doors and green lights or detours and dead ends. But the really good news is, you always have the power to change your point of attraction because you alone have the ability to change the direction of your focus.
To shift your point of attraction from lack to abundance, simply begin to advocate for your own success. Deliberately bring to mind all of the reasons why you are now closer to having what you desire than you’ve ever been before. You might say things to yourself such as, “I now have more clarity about what I really want and why. I have more tools available to me at this moment than at any other time in my life. I am understanding more and more about how manifestations occur, and I am becoming more masterful at directing my energy.”Deliberately advocate for your own success by bringing to mind all of the evidence that already points to it.
Live in the Moment Practice #3: Decide at the beginning of each new day, or each new segment of your day, what type of energy you desire to perpetuate.
When we’re dwelling in the past or fretting about the future, we blunder into each day in a state of half-awareness. One of the most immediate ways to bring yourself into the present moment is to deliberately activate the quality of energy you wish to broadcast.
Think of the range of vibrations we can experience as human beings like a giant palate of color. At one end of the spectrum are high-flying, good-feeling frequencies like inspiration, clarity, love, appreciation, and lightheartedness. And at the other end of this continuum are bad-feeling frequencies like powerlessness, despair, regret, and frustration. In each moment, you have the ability to choose which frequency you broadcast – and therefore which frequencies Law of Attraction will magnify in your experience. In the same way a painter chooses his color spectrum before he begins creating his art, you can choose your frequency in advance of every interaction.
You can choose to paint each new moment with the colors of your liking. You can decide in advance how you want to show up and how you want to feel. And in so doing, you set yourself up to experience that in every aspect of your life you can think of.
The present moment is alive with infinite possibilities. And to make the most of each “now” moment, make the choice to shift your focus away from lack and into abundance. Focus on the presence of what you desire, not on its absence. Align your personal energy field with the fruition of all that you desire. Use your mind to find sufficiency and satisfaction in each new moment. And know that wherever you direct your focus in this powerful moment, the Law of Attraction will add to and magnify and expand.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her forthcoming book The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is available for pre-order now at www.thedesirefactor.com. She communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: www.watchyourwords.com.
You’re probably familiar with that sinking feeling you get when something important is not working out as planned. Gradually or suddenly, you realize that the reality you’re currently living is not aligned with the reality you desire. Sometimes events are unfolding so quickly in the opposite direction that it feels impossible to reverse that momentum. And then, seemingly out of the blue, a breakthrough. You experience a turning point, and the tide begins to change. One shift in perspective and everything now looks different.
New advantages come into view, as do new possibilities. You realize that the very circumstance you were fighting against is actually ripe with blessings and opportunities. You now find yourself back on the good-feeling side of life, where you’re going with the flow rather than resisting it. You’re in the beginning stages of creating forward motion and positive momentum. All brought on by one single turning point that allowed you to leave old energy behind and get swept up in a new reality.
What is the genesis of a turning point? And is it possible to reverse unwanted momentum and create one on purpose? The answer to both questions is absolutely, yes!
Here are 3 steps for transforming any unwanted circumstance into a powerful turning point toward creating a more fulfilling life:
Step 1: Accept the current state of the situation, relationship or event exactly as it is.
We’re powerless to improve a situation that we’re actively railing against. When we’re frustrated, desperate or outraged, we are actually blinded to solutions that may be right in front of us. We first have to achieve a state of acceptance for a situation before we can successfully recreate it.
To reach this state, simply acknowledge that every situation in life has the potential to serve you in some way. Unwanted experiences give you greater clarity about what it is you really do desire. Accepting that there is value in this moment is the first step in creating a turning point from what you’re now living to what you’d prefer.
Acceptance means slowing unwanted momentum.
Imagine that while driving, you suddenly realized that you took a wrong turn on the way to your destination. Would you beat yourself endlessly about your mistake, or blame the faulty navigation? Probably not. You’d simply slow down at the first opportunity and make a U-turn to get back on track. In accepting exactly what’s happened and where you now are, you are free to refocus and recalibrate.
This same attitude supports us in creating turning points in our lives. Rather than fighting against what’s already happened, we yield to and harmonize with the energy of what’s happening now. The moment we accept ourselves and our situation exactly as it is, we feel relief.
Acceptance of “what is,” right now in this moment, is the only doorway through which a bigger and brighter future can emerge.
Step #2: Strive for a state of neutrality, or sufficiency.
Creating turning points – and being able to sustain that new momentum – is a slow-and-steady process, not a quick-fix. Quantum leaps in consciousness are often just not possible. We can’t suddenly pivot from despair to joy, from hopelessness to confidence, or from lack to abundance on a dime. But if our aim is simply to return to a state of neutrality, we can gradually reverse unwanted momentum and turn the tides of our own vibration in a more favorable direction.
It’s difficult to conjure a state of lavish prosperity in the midst of paralyzing debt. And equally hard to feel special and adored in the middle of a sharp pang of loneliness. But if you are willing and have the mental discipline, you can always access a feeling of neutrality. This is another way of slowing unwanted momentum so the turning point you’re reaching for is possible.
Try to find a neutral thought about that troubled relationship or stalled project at work. Take stock of what is going well, and what is good enough about each person or situation. Neutrality creates within us the possibility for a turnaround.
Gradually, as we give more focus to what is working and what is wanted, rather than to what isn’t working or isn’t wanted, the fulcrum tips and our desires come more quickly to fruition.
Step #3: Focus on the hidden benefits, opportunities, and positive aspects of your present situation.
There are only two basic positions you can take in relation to anything that you desire. You can focus either on its lack or its abundance. You can make either the absence or the presence of what you desire foremost in your mind. You can focus on the feeling of wanting it, missing it, or worrying about it, or on the sensation of already having and appreciating it. With the power of your focus, you can zoom in to any experience of reality you desire. You can include every detail, or you can completely blur the lines. You can use your powerful mind to find fault or to look for things to praise. You can observe what’s missing, or you can appreciate all that you already have. And whatever reality you direct your focus toward, just know that that reality will expand.
Focusing on the positive aspects of any person or situation brings us soothing relief that creates the opportunity for a turning point to occur.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her forthcoming book The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is available for pre-order now at www.thedesirefactor.com. She communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: www.watchyourwords.com.
