boost self worth

Let’s start with the good news and the bad news:  From a manifestation perspective, nothing is more important than feeling good.  How you feel – about yourself, others, and each new situation you’re in – determines the quality of experiences you magnetize into your life.  This is Law of Attraction 101:  Our feeling state reflects our dominant vibration, and it’s by virtue of the vibrations we send out that we attract.  

Self-worth is a magnetic vibration.

Think of your level of self-worth like your own personal storage container for abundance.  When your self-worth is high, and you’re feeling good, you’re at maximum capacity for attracting wonderful things into your experience.  This is why those who love themselves so easily attract and receive love from others.  And it’s also why those who place a high value on their time and talents call forth that level of respect from everyone they interact with.  Because their self-worth container is full and overflowing, we are naturally drawn to them.  At an unconscious level, we are magnetized toward their positive energy so we seek them out in hopes of getting on that high vibe ourselves!   

But this same phenomenon also works in reverse.  Those who are feeling down about themselves are natural repellents.  As vibrational beings, we can instinctively sense the state of deficiency created by their feelings of lack, and we do all we can to steer clear of that vortex of negativity.   

Self-worth is the most important factor to attracting the things you want.

And this is why – anytime you don’t love the results you’re attracting, your first order of business is to focus on feeling better.  Here’s are 3 immediately actionable ways to increase your level of self-worth: 

To feel better now, choose your perceptions.

No event in life is imbued with inherent meaning.  Rather it’s our perception and interpretation of life’s events that dictates how we feel about them – and therefore, about ourselves.  

For example, if you don’t get through your daily to-do list, will you berate yourself for what you didn’t do or appreciate yourself for what you did?  If you have to bow-out of an event last minute, will you feel bad about what you’re missing or gratitude for what you’re choosing instead?  These seemingly small decisions have a massive impact on your self-worth. Whenever you can, choose the perspective that empowers you rather than one that makes you feel bad about yourself. Remember, that whether you declare something as good news or as bad news, you’re right! 


To feel better now, notice the direction of your thoughts 

How you perceive something naturally gives rise to the thoughts you think about it.  Perceive it as a blessing, and your mind will flood you with affirmative and creative thoughts about how worthy you are.  Perceive it as a punishment, and viola.  You’ll discover that your mind has an almost unlimited capacity for suspicion, remorse, and imagining worst-case-scenarios where none may actually exist.  

You are the only one who can choose to entertain thoughts that feel bad or to reach for thoughts that feel better. 

So the next time you find yourself being carried away on a stream of thoughts that erodes your self-worth, remember that you have the power to stop the boat.

Take a break from whatever you’re thinking about.  Step outside to notice and appreciate the beauty of nature. Make a list of your positive aspects or your previous accomplishments and read each one slowly, really letting it in. Thoughts that enhance your self-worth are just as accessible as those that diminish it.  You just have to point your focus in the right direction.  


To feel better now, watch your words.

I am constantly amazed by the power of words: a simple phrase or story can blow open barriers in our minds, lift us into ways of thinking, and transport us instantly from a mindset of limitation and into a new possibility for our lives.  And, of course, words are a double-edged sword that can also be used to shred our self-esteem, dash our hopes, and send our self-worth plummeting.   

To feel better now, make the powerful decision not to speak in contradiction to who you are or what you desire to create.  To help you do this, think of the words you choose when speaking to a precious child or a beloved pet.  They’re loving, encouraging, and life-affirming, right?  Well, you deserve that same level of care and sweetness.  To quote film star and martial arts master Bruce Lee, “Don’t speak negatively about yourself, even as a joke. Your body doesn’t know the difference. Words are energy, and they cast spells, that’s why it’s called spelling. 

Change the way you speak about yourself, and you can change your life.”  

You can also visit to learn which words pull your energy down and which words to use instead.  Only put words to that which fills up your container of self-worth and encourages the realities you desire to nourish and expand. 

Your level of self-worth has everything to do with the level of success and satisfaction you experience. When the energy of your perceptions, thoughts, and words are positive and self-affirming, you easily manifest the experiences you desire.  


Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.  Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more;