feeling worthy - what is worthiness

If you want to see what worthiness looks like, spend a few minutes observing a baby.

We all come into the world hardwired with the knowledge that simply because we exist, we’re deserving of love, warmth, comfort, satisfaction and joy.  We don’t hesitate to voice our discontent when our needs are not getting met, and we certainly don’t pretend to be happy when we’re not.  Before we learn to seek approval or validation outside of ourselves, it’s natural for us to prioritize the inner world of our own thoughts, feelings, perceptions and desires over the external world of people, things and possessions.  But somewhere along the journey to adulthood, most of us lose touch with our innate and natural feeling of worthiness. 

In this article, we’re going to explore what worthiness is, how it gets built up or torn down, and how you can choose to expand your own feelings of worthiness and recover from low self worth.

What Is Worthiness?

To help us answer this question, the Oxford Dictionary gives us two useful definitions:

  • The quality of being good enough, and 
  • The quality of deserving attention or respect

Worthiness is an unshakable sense of okay-ness that we carry within even when we find ourselves in less-than-okay circumstances.  It’s like navigating life with the help of an inner compass or a guiding North Star.   Worthiness is the quiet confidence and positive self esteem that emanates from some people.  It’s a belief in our own inherent goodness that causes us to expect the very best from each situation and person we encounter – especially ourselves.   

But here’s the paradox about feeling worthy: It’s a declaration that each of us must make on our own behalf.  We cannot borrow worthiness from any external factors or situation – and in fact, the more we look for others to validate our worthiness, the less worthy we feel. 

The Source of Worthiness

The biggest illusion about feeling worthy is that it’s something we have to earn or achieve.  Many of us believe that once we reach a certain goal or have checked all the right boxes, that then we’ll finally feel worthy.  But seeking worthiness from external sources is shaky at best.  Because if you believe your self-worth is tied to a particular title, status, or possession, it will swell in the presence of those things but recede in their absence.  Real worth and high self-esteem can only be cultivated from within.  

To begin your own journey towards high self-worth, here are three practices to begin sourcing this energy from inside yourself: 

Worthiness Practice #1: Declare it.  

You can’t lead from behind.  And likewise, you cannot build feelings of worthiness by trying to overcome all the ways in which you are not worthy.  Instead, worthiness begins with a declaration that because you are incarnated in a human body at this particular era in time, that you are worthy of receiving all the gifts and blessings that are available to you.  You can remind yourself of this by placing a baby picture of yourself somewhere you’ll see it often.  You are that precious child. Worthiness is your birthright; not something you need to earn.     

Worthiness Practice #2:  Look for evidence of it.  

You can only focus in one direction at a time.  You’re either looking for evidence of your worthiness, or you’re arguing for your worthlessness.  If you make a commitment to consciously adjusting the filter through which you view the world, you will see that there is actually a lot of evidence of your worthiness all around you.

You were born into an abundant, unlimited universe where there is virtually no limit to how much love, inspiration, joy, excitement or success you can experience.   You have eyes that allow you to see and skin that allows you to feel and touch.  You have talents and perspectives that are unique to any other person in the world.  You have desires in your heart that deserve to be nurtured and fulfilled.   You are a manifestation of the Divine.  You’re worthy simply because you exist.  

Worthiness Practice #3:  Practice the vibration of it.  

Remember the definition we started with:  Worthiness is the quality of being good enough, and of knowing that you deserve attention and respect.  This quality is a vibration that will gain strength and clarity every time you practice it. 

Begin by listening to yourself; by respecting and honoring your feelings, thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, and perspectives.  Create healthy boundaries where you need to.  Lean into what feels good and energizing and away from people or situations that feel belittling or draining.  Invest your time where it is valued.  Honor your energy, your space, your opinions, and beliefs. Respect your own feelings.

Remember, worthiness is sourced from within, and you access it by virtue of how and where you direct your attention.  By practicing sourcing this inner gratitude and worthiness within, you will strengthen your self-worth. What you think about on a daily basis is what you will attract to yourself in your life. 

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Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.  Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more; www.watchyourwords.com.