“What if I made a mistake?” “Why am I undeserving of happiness?” “Will I ever be able to love again?” Statements like these are the polar opposite of healing affirmations. They are negative thought patterns that often plague those of us whose hearts have been broken.
And while these reverse affirmations are sometimes justified, they are never helpful. The thoughts we think carry energy, and these thoughts will send your vibration plummeting. The more we lament our past choices, the less we’re able to perceive new opportunities.
Thankfully, you’re always just a thought away from reversing a negative tailspin, and these 3 healing affirmations will help. Read each one, along with the explanations that follow. These universal statements of truth will soothe your heart, neutralize your negative feelings, and restore your faith in the universe.
Healing Affirmation #1: It can’t work for one unless it works for both.
It’s a commonly held misconception that relationships must involve compromise. But while compromise is necessary when it comes to small, day-to-day things, it shouldn’t form the basis of a relationship.
Chances are, your previous relationship dissolved because there were things about it that just didn’t work for you. Maybe your values didn’t align. You may have wanted different things out of life, or maybe the relationship had simply run its course.
In hindsight, it’s easy to get caught up in thoughts like, “if I had only had done more or been more flexible.” But the truth is, if the relationship didn’t work for you, it wasn’t ultimately going to work for the other person. And vice versa. If you being who you are consistently caused conflict, that’s not going to work for you in the long term. Bending over backward to make the other person happy may ease tensions at the moment. But over time, those tensions build-up, leading to resentment and disappointment.
Repeat the healing affirmation that it’s okay to want what you want. It’s okay to leave a relationship that doesn’t work in order to open a space for one that does. If something doesn’t work for you, it won’t work for the other person in the long term. You deserve a relationship where both people are heard, understood, and respected for your unique differences.
Healing Affirmation #2: The universe holds a broader perspective than I can see at any moment in time.
The universe holds a bird’s eye view of all of our lives. And in its infinite wisdom, it’s capable of managing all the puzzle pieces that make up your ideal and perfect whole.
The only reason we look backward with remorse or regret is because we do not see the full picture of what’s ahead. We don’t know how many possibilities exist in every single moment. We don’t yet have faith that all we need to do is align ourselves with our heart’s desire in order to attract it.
This healing affirmation will help you surrender your need to figure out how, when and where your desire will manifest. It drops you back into this moment, where you and you alone have the power to choose the direction of your thoughts.
When you’re aligned in heart and mind with the essence of your ideal relationship, the universe will make it happen. There’s no need for pushing, shoving, manipulating, compromising or any other strategy. By surrendering the illusion that you’re in control and simply allowing things to unfold, you summon the power of the Law of Detachment. This universal law states that the fastest way to manifest any outcome is to relinquish our attachment to it. Rest in the knowledge that there are truly an infinite number of ways that your ideal relationship can come into being. Repeat this healing affirmation to yourself, and allow things to unfold in their own timing.
Healing Affirmation #3: Every life experience brings me greater clarity, wisdom, and expansion.
You don’t know what you don’t know. You have to live some of what you don’t want, in order to really clarify what it is that you do want. And this is why your own life experience is the greatest teacher of all.
Anytime an important relationship has come to an end or is changing form, you have an important choice to make. You can focus on what you didn’t like, or you can focus on all that you learned as a result of the experience.
I recommend actually making a list of all the wisdom you have now gained as a result of your relationship. Your list might look something like this:
- I have learned that I am self-reliant.
- I learned the importance of listening to myself.
- I learned how to take care of myself.
- I learned the importance of being honest and speaking up for myself.
- I now understand the importance of taking a relationship slowly, and of communicating clearly in the beginning.
- I learned that I am a unique human being with many gifts to give.
- I learned that just because I was involved with someone for 10 years does not mean I have to stay with them forever. I learned the value of the saying, “When you’re in a hole, stop digging.”
The value of this healing affirmation is that it refocuses your creative energy on what you’ve gained, not what you’ve lost. It shifts your attention from looking in the rearview at all that’s gone by, to looking ahead to new possibilities. And knowing that you’ve come away from this experience wiser, clearer, and more expanded soothes your heart.
We are all born with free will. And this means that at every moment we have the power to choose how to apply our most precious resource: the power of our focus. When we focus on the gifts of every experience we’ve had…. When we know that we’re entitled to want what we want… And when we trust the universe to deliver our desires in its own Divine timing, powerful forces come to our aid.
These healing affirmations will help to mend your broken heart, by restoring your harmony with the energy that creates worlds.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her forthcoming book The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is available for pre-order now at www.thedesirefactor.com. She communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: www.watchyourwords.com.