how to be an influencer

Do you consider yourself an influencer, or a person who is easily influenced?   

Are you able to “hold your own” in pretty much any situation?  Can you maintain a vibration of stability, of security, of inner peace in the face of another person’s fear?  Are you able to stay focused on your intended outcome, even in an environment that is chaotic or unstable?

From an energy mastery perspective, these are among the most important questions we can ask ourselves.  Maintaining our personal vibration, regardless of those around us, is crucial to our joy and our ability to deliberately create.  

And yet, how often do we find ourselves feeling irritated by another person’s laziness, or on edge in response to their bad mood? 

Of course, it’s easy to blame them for the dip in our vibration. 

After all, if they’d just behave, we’d be happy, right?!

The problem is, asking other people to change to make us feel better gives them the power to influence our vibration.  And as deliberate creators, our first goal is to reclaim this power for ourselves.  

Here are 3 steps for becoming a generator of your own mood, attitude, and vibration – regardless of what others are doing around you:

Step #1:  Acknowledge that you and you alone are in control of your own vibration.

We often tense against situations that we perceive will be unpleasant, and this is for one reason only:  We believe other people’s energies have the power to influence our energy stream.  And this is simply not the case! 

We are each in charge of our own energy alignment, and we are the only ones who can deviate from it.  

Think about it:  Can anyone besides you put a thought in your mind?  Can anyone besides you create tension or ease within your body?  

Yes, other people can and do broadcast discordant vibrations.  Yes, other people can invite you into a lower frequency of consciousness.  And certainly other people carry on all manner of unpleasant conversation.  But you are the one who has to opt in to these experiences by choosing to give your attention to it, or not.  Which brings us to the next step.   

Step #2:  Distract yourself from the unwanted momentum. 

In every situation or interaction, there are an infinite number of things you can choose to turn your attention to.  One choice is to focus on the moment-by-moment unfolding of events.  You can watch every detail and hang on every word.  But when the momentum of a situation is going sideways, focusing on the details of it is unwise.  So instead, engage your power of focus and turn your attention toward something more pleasing.  

Is there a breeze blowing through the space where you’re located?  Are there fragrant scents wafting by?  Do you appreciate the colors or aesthetics of the environment you’re in?  Are there parts of your own body that feel especially comfortable and at ease?  

If you can’t find anything enjoyable about the environment you’re situated in, do your best to find a good-feeling thought.

What areas of your life are going great?  Is there an experience or event coming up that you’re especially looking forward to? What recent experiences have you had that were interesting or fun?  

By deliberately turning your attention to pleasant things, you separate yourself from unwanted momentum.  You stop being influenced by the energy around you, and become practiced at generating your own vibration.  And this is the first step toward feeling good, even when others are trying to bring you down.  

Step #3: Choose your mood, your attitude – and therefore, your vibration – in advance of any encounter.  

Before you drag your physical body into any new interaction or experience, make sure your energy body is prepared.  This means taking the time to tune yourself to the experience you’re hoping to create.   Imagine the energies of joy, expansion, ease, connection and wellbeing bubbling up within you.  Feel this frequency entering and uplifting every aspect of your being. The higher you raise your energy frequency level ahead of time, the easier it will be to sustain that high-flying vibration.    

When it comes to the way we live our lives, we are all faced with a fundamental choice.  We can allow the dominant frequency of the world around us to calibrate our energy field, or we can take responsibility for deliberately cultivating the energy we wish to live in.   In other words, we can allow others to influence our vibration, or we can influence our own.  One choice leaves us at the mercy of world events and other people’s actions and reactions.  The other choice returns us to our power to create the kind of world we desire to live in.



Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.  Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships.  You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: