manifest your ideal partner

Most people seeking to manifest their ideal partner would describe themselves on a journey to find their true love.  And in this description, without even meaning to, they are holding themselves apart from the relationship they desire.  

Whenever we believe that what we desire is missing or hard to find, we greatly diminish our attraction powers.  To manifest your ideal partner, you must begin with an entirely different premise.  You must take into account the powerful realm of energy. 

Here are 3 energy mastery secrets you can begin applying now to joyfully manifest the ideal partner for you.   

Manifestation Secret #1: Understand that you attract by virtue of your personal energy, and as such, you are always attracting. 

Everything that you are – your body, your breath… your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and desires… the basis of all of it is energy.  In every waking moment, you are generating an observable energetic vibration, which moves at a particular frequency.

You know this from your own personal experience.  You can feel how the energy of excitement moves at a different rate of speed than the energy of disappointment.  What you may not understand is that both frequencies of energy are highly attractive. 

Energy is drawn together in rivers and streams according to its predominant frequency.  This explains why those who are primarily negative and complaining tend to gather together in groups. And it’s also why the happiest and most successful among us tend to enjoy like-minded company.  

So, the first energy mastery secret for manifesting your ideal partner is the knowledge that you are always attracting.  

With this information in mind, you can begin to examine all your relationships and understand the energetic basis of them. 

If we’re feeling primarily broken or needy, we tend to attract those we hope will rescue us.  If we’re seeking validation, we may unconsciously gravitate to those who are less resilient in some way.  

So what’s the point of understanding that we attract through the energy we offer?  Well, in order to manifest your ideal partner, you first need to become an energetic or vibrational match to the person you want to attract.  If your consistent vibration is one of loneliness, you are not an energetic match to the experience of connection and fulfillment.   

Once you understand that the energy you’re generating matters a lot, you’re ready to move to the next energy mastery secret.  

Manifestation Secret #2: You have the power to generate your vibration on purpose.  

Regardless of what’s happened to you in the past, the present moment is always fresh and new.  The universe is constantly re-creating itself, taking into consideration only who you are now, not who you’ve been.

This is excellent news because it means that a do-over is literally available in each new moment. You do not need to drag the baggage of your past disappointments or heartbreaks with you!  In fact, rehashing what’s gone wrong only guarantees you’ll continue to attract more of the same. 

You can shift your point of attraction entirely with this one question:  What is the essence of what I desire to experience?  In other words, if you had already manifested your ideal partner, how do you believe you’d feel?

What is that feeling you are hoping to experience when you manifest your ideal partner? Is it a feeling of security, or joy, or sexuality, or self-expression, or love?     

Once you’ve identified the essential feeling you want to experience, your work is to consciously align yourself with this feeling.  Literally invite this energy into your vibration and incorporate it in your daily life.  

If playfulness is a vibration you hope to experience when you manifest your ideal partner, become playful in everything you do.  So often we desire to meet someone special, hoping they’ll evoke the best version of ourselves.  But from an energetic standpoint, this is entirely backwards.  Become that better version of yourself now, and you’ll evoke from the universe at large someone who matches that.   One you make this the dominant energy in your vibration, you’ll draw in your ideal partnership like a magnet to steel

Manifestation Secret #3: Accept where you are, right in this moment, in the journey toward manifesting your ideal partner.  

How often do we postpone our happiness to some future time, when all of our desires are realized? And how much joy do we miss in the process?

The fact is, the moment you gave birth to the desire to manifest your ideal partner, you set a powerful energy into motion.  Yes, this energy will eventually culminate with the meeting of your souls, but you have reason even now to celebrate. 

Do your best to enjoy the process, and acknowledge that meeting the “right” one is far more important than meeting right now!  Allow the universe to handle the timeline, and to orchestrate the details of how, where and who.  Your role in this co-creation is to attend to your own vibration, to feel as happy as you can, and to expect great things.    

So focus on yourself; focus on your now.  Focus on being happy within yourself and on loving and honoring yourself for the amazing human being that you are.  The experience of contentment, fulfillment and satisfaction is the only doorway through which more contentment, fulfillment, and satisfaction can enter.   


Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.  Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships.  You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: