You’re probably familiar with that sinking feeling you get when something important is not working out as planned. Gradually or suddenly, you realize that the reality you’re currently living is not aligned with the reality you desire. Sometimes events are unfolding so quickly in the opposite direction that it feels impossible to reverse that momentum. And then, seemingly out of the blue, a breakthrough. You experience a turning point, and the tide begins to change. One shift in perspective and everything now looks different.
New advantages come into view, as do new possibilities. You realize that the very circumstance you were fighting against is actually ripe with blessings and opportunities. You now find yourself back on the good-feeling side of life, where you’re going with the flow rather than resisting it. You’re in the beginning stages of creating forward motion and positive momentum. All brought on by one single turning point that allowed you to leave old energy behind and get swept up in a new reality.
What is the genesis of a turning point? And is it possible to reverse unwanted momentum and create one on purpose? The answer to both questions is absolutely, yes!
Here are 3 steps for transforming any unwanted circumstance into a powerful turning point toward creating a more fulfilling life:
Step 1: Accept the current state of the situation, relationship or event exactly as it is.
We’re powerless to improve a situation that we’re actively railing against. When we’re frustrated, desperate or outraged, we are actually blinded to solutions that may be right in front of us. We first have to achieve a state of acceptance for a situation before we can successfully recreate it.
To reach this state, simply acknowledge that every situation in life has the potential to serve you in some way. Unwanted experiences give you greater clarity about what it is you really do desire. Accepting that there is value in this moment is the first step in creating a turning point from what you’re now living to what you’d prefer.
Acceptance means slowing unwanted momentum.
Imagine that while driving, you suddenly realized that you took a wrong turn on the way to your destination. Would you beat yourself endlessly about your mistake, or blame the faulty navigation? Probably not. You’d simply slow down at the first opportunity and make a U-turn to get back on track. In accepting exactly what’s happened and where you now are, you are free to refocus and recalibrate.
This same attitude supports us in creating turning points in our lives. Rather than fighting against what’s already happened, we yield to and harmonize with the energy of what’s happening now. The moment we accept ourselves and our situation exactly as it is, we feel relief.
Acceptance of “what is,” right now in this moment, is the only doorway through which a bigger and brighter future can emerge.
Step #2: Strive for a state of neutrality, or sufficiency.
Creating turning points – and being able to sustain that new momentum – is a slow-and-steady process, not a quick-fix. Quantum leaps in consciousness are often just not possible. We can’t suddenly pivot from despair to joy, from hopelessness to confidence, or from lack to abundance on a dime. But if our aim is simply to return to a state of neutrality, we can gradually reverse unwanted momentum and turn the tides of our own vibration in a more favorable direction.
It’s difficult to conjure a state of lavish prosperity in the midst of paralyzing debt. And equally hard to feel special and adored in the middle of a sharp pang of loneliness. But if you are willing and have the mental discipline, you can always access a feeling of neutrality. This is another way of slowing unwanted momentum so the turning point you’re reaching for is possible.
Try to find a neutral thought about that troubled relationship or stalled project at work. Take stock of what is going well, and what is good enough about each person or situation. Neutrality creates within us the possibility for a turnaround.
Gradually, as we give more focus to what is working and what is wanted, rather than to what isn’t working or isn’t wanted, the fulcrum tips and our desires come more quickly to fruition.
Step #3: Focus on the hidden benefits, opportunities, and positive aspects of your present situation.
There are only two basic positions you can take in relation to anything that you desire. You can focus either on its lack or its abundance. You can make either the absence or the presence of what you desire foremost in your mind. You can focus on the feeling of wanting it, missing it, or worrying about it, or on the sensation of already having and appreciating it. With the power of your focus, you can zoom in to any experience of reality you desire. You can include every detail, or you can completely blur the lines. You can use your powerful mind to find fault or to look for things to praise. You can observe what’s missing, or you can appreciate all that you already have. And whatever reality you direct your focus toward, just know that that reality will expand.
Focusing on the positive aspects of any person or situation brings us soothing relief that creates the opportunity for a turning point to occur.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her forthcoming book The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is available for pre-order now at www.thedesirefactor.com. She communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: www.watchyourwords.com.