appreciate yourself

It’s not always easy to appreciate yourself when goals are still unmet or things aren’t going according to plan.  The experience of living with less joy than you know you’re capable of can be excruciating.  And yet, this gap between what you want and what you’ve got is the birthplace of every desire.  Learning to appreciate yourself, and recognizing how far you’ve come is the fastest way to close this gap.  Here are 3 universal principles that you can apply to instantly generate more self-appreciation.

Principle #1:  Appreciate yourself for having given birth to each new desire.

The moment you become aware of a new desire, you have two basic choices in how you relate to that desire.  You can resist it, suppress it, and kill it with doubt, or you can nourish it with positive thoughts and beliefs.  The first choice will hold the improvement you’re reaching for at arm’s length.  The second choice will mobilize and magnetize the improved reality into your experience.  

Many of us have a negative and counter-productive relationship with our own desires.  We try to suppress the feeling of wanting because it triggers within us so much discontent.   But what if we appreciated ourselves for everything it took to hatch the desire in the first place?  

Life is a continuous process of defining and redefining what we want.  The moment we create something new, we see things from a new vantage point.  And that vantage point brings our awareness to yet another desire to create something different or more.   There truly is no final destination.  Desire is the force that drives our constant evolution.     

Allow yourself to fall in love with the very idea of your desire unfolding.  Celebrate and appreciate yourself for having lived enough life to know with powerful clarity what you now want.  And when you see others living something that you desire to create for yourself, realize that it’s possible for you, too.  Even your unrealized desires deserve appreciation because they are the vehicle for all you have the potential to become.   

Principle #2: Appreciate yourself by recognizing how far you’ve come. 

The fastest way to allow in more abundance is to make it a daily practice to appreciate what you already have.  In our constant striving toward the proverbial top of the mountain, it’s easy to forget how much ground we’ve covered.  Appreciate yourself by deciding to stop, turn around, and feel satisfied and proud as you notice how far you’ve come.   

If you look around your life as it exists today, you’ll realize that you’re now living what you once only dreamed of.  Many of the things you’ve already manifested in your life likely began as a faint idea or far-out dream.   There are so many aspects of yourself and your life that are already going amazingly well – and these are cause for appreciation!

The energy of appreciation is one of the most attractive, magnetic, and powerful energies in all the universe. When we are appreciated by another, we feel seen, safe, validated, and inspired to do, be, and give even more.  And when we turn the lens of appreciation to ourselves, we bathe ourselves in its abundant, high-frequency energy.   

So appreciate where you stand in this exact moment. Appreciate all that has come before, which gave you greater clarity about what you now want. Appreciate all that you have learned and all that you have already manifested.  Don’t allow yourself to become complacent about the things you have already manifested. Continue to use them as objects of attention and nourish them with your energy and your love.  What you appreciate, appreciates in value, and becomes more.  

Principle #3:  Acknowledge that you already have a relationship with the reality you desire to create. 

You already have a present, real-time relationship with every single one of your desires.  This relationship exists right here and right now, not at some distant point in the future.   But it’s up to you to maintain this relationship as you would with any other important person in your life. 

The relationship with your ideal body is one that you want to nourish and attend to. So is the relationship with your children, your friends, your coworkers, and your significant other. In the same way, you have a relationship with all of the beautiful material possessions you have already manifested and acquired.  And your active appreciation of them is what will keep those things alive and thriving in your experience. 

Within every desire are all the components that support its complete realization. The desire itself came loaded with everything needed to bring about its full realization. It is encoded like DNA. You don’t need to add anything to it. You just need to tend it. Acknowledge it. Be mindful of its presence. Realize that because you desire it, it already exists within you. There is great sufficiency all around you. Flow your love toward everything in your life that is already working well, and appreciate what you already have enough of.  Appreciate yourself, generously and often.  This is how you open the doorway to greater abundance. 




Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.  Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships.  You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: