difficult times

A self-empowered person is someone who’s confident that they can hold their own, regardless of what’s happening around them.  It’s the ability to maintain a vibration of stability, security, and inner peace, even when faced with another person’s fear.  And true self-empowerment is a state of being that you can achieve in good times and in difficult times alike.  

From an energy mastery perspective, the ability to empower ourselves is one of the most vital skills we can acquire.  Because having control over our own personal vibration – regardless of those around us – is crucial to our joy and our ability to deliberately create.

And the good news is, that your ability to unconditionally empower yourself can be strengthened with practice and attention.  

Here are 3 energy mastery keys to help you empower yourself, even in difficult times:


Empowerment Key #1:  Give yourself permission to feel your feelings.


Most of us are in the habit of disconnecting from, minimizing, or negating our feelings.  And this is usually because we were trained early on to place other people’s happiness above our own.  So we learned to be likable and agreeable – even when we were feeling unhappy and insecure.  

But unless we can honestly acknowledge how we’re feeling, there’s just no way we can effectively navigate difficult times and situations.  Our emotions bring us moment-to-moment wisdom and information that naturally guide us toward the experiences we most desire.      

To navigate difficult times and people, we must become willing to feel ourselves and to acknowledge when something doesn’t feel good.  And to then make ourselves enough of a priority to make a different choice.   

So give yourself permission to feel the full range of your emotions. Emotions are simply energy in motion.  They rise and fall on their own, so there is no need to try to control them.  Use your breath to welcome your emotions to the surface where they can be acknowledged and honored for the information they hold.   If you prioritize feeling good, you will always be led toward situations and people that are in your highest and best good.  

Empowerment Key #2:  Learn to honor your inner “yes” as well as your inner “no.”


Every time we say “yes” when we mean “no,” we diminish our power.  And in choosing to remain in an environment that feels toxic or unbeneficial, we only make that difficult experience worse.      

Part of empowering yourself is protecting your own boundaries, rather than overriding them to make others happy.  It’s not anyone else’s job to hear, respect or listen to our boundaries; it’s up to each of us to advocate for ourselves.   

You can empower yourself to navigate difficult times by consciously deciding that your “no” means NO.   No, you do not need to engage in conversations that suck your energy.  No, you do not need to bring your energy down just because someone you love is having a difficult time. 

You have both the right and the responsibility to uphold your inner boundaries, even when doing so may upset others.  

This may feel challenging in the beginning, so remind yourself of the rewards.  Not only will you feel less resentment towards others, but you’ll also have more integrity within yourself.  Remember that what you feel is important.  What you think is important.  You are important.  You do not need to allow the difficult times of others to derail your clarity and good mood.      

Empowerment Principle #3:  To navigate any difficult time or situation, deliberately focus on the benefits, opportunities, and positive aspects of yourself and your life.  


There are only two basic positions you can take in relation to anything in your life. You can either focus on what you perceive is going wrong, or on what you perceive as going right.  And when you understand that what you focus on expands, you discover that the most empowering thing you can do is to focus on your positive aspects.

With the power of your focus, you can zoom in to any version of reality you desire. You can use the mechanism of your mind to find fault or to look for things to praise. You can observe what’s missing, or you can appreciate all that you already have. And whatever reality you direct your focus toward, just know that that reality will expand. 

Focusing on the positive aspects of any person or situation – even when it appears to be going sideways – brings much-needed, soothing relief. 

It’s a way of making peace with where we currently stand, even as we’re reaching for more.   

Difficult times are an inevitable part of our life experience because contrast is an inevitable part of life.  But in every moment in time, we have the ability to choose which side of the contrast we will focus on.  Will we focus on the current difficulty or the clarity and expansion that the difficulty is leading us to?   As a seasoned deliberate creator, know that you have the tools to direct your attention toward whatever reality that you desire to unfold. 


Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.  Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in aligning with and creating your desires by participating in a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words: Click here to learn more; www.watchyourwords.com.