There is one fundamental reason why the “fake it til you make it” approach fails.

And that reason is, most of us disregard the realm of energy and attempt only to alter our words and outer behaviors.  For example, we’re told to “dress for the job you want, not the job you have.”  But while this surface-level approach may lift your mood temporarily, it won’t create long-lasting results.  And this is because the universe does not respond to our words or even to our behaviors.  In this energy-based universe, the energy we generate from within returns to us in the external results we create.   

‘Faking it til you make it is about producing a specific vibration which the Law of Attraction can then respond to. 

Here are 3 principles to keep in mind to make the “fake it til you make it” approach work for you:

Principle #1:  To effectively ‘fake it til you make it,’ seek first to shift your state of being.  

Most pursue outer goals, hoping that the achievement will produce a shift in their inner state of being.   It’s just so tempting to conflate the accomplishment with the feeling we believe the accomplishment will bring! 

We say things (whether out loud or to ourselves) like:  “Once I get the promotion, I’ll feel respected in my career.”  Or, “When I earn X dollars per year, I’ll feel important and worthwhile.” We think, “Oh boy, when I’m on vacation, dangling my toes in the ocean, I’ll finally feel sensual and relaxed.”  

This way of thinking indefinitely postpones our happiness to some distant point in the future.  We keep thinking that once he hit the next goal, or the next one after that, we’ll feel great.  But that future destination never arrives.  It’s a moving target we never catch up to.

To effectively fake it til you make it, conjure the experience of how you want to feel right now.  

Faking it til you make it is not about using the right words or going through the motions.  It’s about causing a shift in your energy field.  And you always have the ability to do this, no matter what your current circumstances.  

Simply call to mind an achievement you believe will make you happy, then contemplate it as your present-moment reality. Imagine it with as much color and intensity as possible.  Feel the sensations you believe you will feel once this outcome has been achieved.   

In your mind’s eye, seat yourself behind the desk in your new corner office.  Position yourself at the podium on your book tour.  Feel the sensations of freedom and accomplishment as you rejoice in the number of zeros on your bank statement.  

In your mind and in your gut, play with the feeling of having fulfilled every one of your goals until this vibration is deeply familiar to you. Tune into this emotional touchstone often – like punching the preset button of your favorite radio station.  And visit this channel often until it becomes the most popular one on your dial.

Principle #2:  To successfully ‘fake it til you make it,” imagine slipping into your desired reality like a custom-made suit. 

Think of something that you deeply desire to create. Maybe it’s to create a larger stream of money and abundance into your life.  Or maybe you desire to improve your organizational skills or expand your creativity.   And now, connecting with the energetic frequency of this new reality, imagine stepping into it like a piece of clothing.    

Think of this as deliberately shedding the frumpy energy suit you’ve been wearing and literally stepping into a brand-new reality. Faking it til you make it is about revealing a new possibility for your life that’s distinct from anything you’ve lived before.

You first have to connect with the feeling essence of what you desire, and then own that feeling by wearing it, being it, and taking it with you everywhere you go.   Reach beyond the realm of what already is and anchor yourself in the realm where everything you desire already exists. 

Principle #3: Do not limit yourself by what currently is.  Use your power as a deliberate creator to connect with the reality you desire.  

It’s relatively easy to feel loved when you’re in a great relationship. But if you’re recently heartbroken or have been single for years, achieving this feeling state will require more focus.   

In the same way, it’s easy to feel abundant when money is easily rolling in.  But what about when you’re in a bad financial situation or worried about the strength of the economy?  These are the moments when we have to look beyond the conditions that have already manifested.   Honing this skill is what makes us deliberate creators.  We become visionaries who chart our own courses instead of travelers who simply follow the paths that have already been charted.

Faking it til you make it is about consciously creating your own reality.

To effectively fake it til you make it, call into your awareness the soft presence of your desire. Feel the energy of it. Notice that this reality vibrates at a particular frequency, and your desire is actually calling you up to this higher frequency. Feel yourself connecting with this frequency on an energetic level.  Allow yourself to harmonize and become one with the vibration of your desire.

And now, from the stance of already feeling at one with the reality you desire, take it a step further.  

Allow yourself to become aware of any actions that would support you in integrating even further with the vibration of your desire. What thoughts, emotions, and attitudes would align you even further? What communications could you initiate that would establish you more firmly in this higher frequency? 

If you were completely at one with the energy of your desire, what choices, practices, and actions would you naturally and easily take?  Allow the energy of what you want to guide your every thought, word, and attitude.  This is the Energy Mastery secret to “faking it til you make it.”


Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.  Her forthcoming book The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is available for pre-order now at She communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: