honoring yourself

You can create the outer symbols of a happy life and never feel happy inside. 

Imagine magnetizing a successful business and never feel like a success. 

It’s possible to be in a room full of people and still feel lonely inside.  Until you learn how to honor yourself, you won’t feel honored by – or even seen by – other people.

Honoring yourself every day is the secret to happiness, and it’s also the secret to manifesting the things you desire.   

Honoring yourself is vital to achieving everything you desire because the world mirrors back to us the way we feel about ourselves.  

Your conditions in the outer world always mirror what’s happening within the inner world of your thoughts and emotions.  If you’re feeling depleted, anxious, or self-critical, this energy will color your perception of everything and everyone in your life.  But when you’re feeling happy, eager, and proud of yourself, everything around you looks brighter, friendlier, and filled with possibility.  

The thoughts, beliefs, and feelings we dwell on in the privacy of our hearts and minds all transmit a frequency.  And the situations and experiences that come into our lives are always a perfect vibrational match to the frequency we’re sending out.  The universe responds to this frequency by bringing us more evidence of what we already believe. 

Perceptions, feelings, and beliefs we hold about ourselves are the most powerful magnetizers of all.  If we feel unworthy, that feeling will linger, no matter how many valuable possessions we gather.  Learning to honor yourself opens the door to all you desire and allows you to appreciate all that you already have.

Here are 3 steps you can take every day to become more honoring of yourself.

Step #1:  Honoring yourself begins with feeling yourself.

The first step in honoring yourself is to give yourself permission to feel however you are feeling.  

Most of us were taught to disconnect from, minimize, or negate our feelings.  We’re trained to place other people’s happiness above our own.  We’re taught to be likeable and agreeable.  As a result, most of us invest a disproportionate amount of energy into trying to influence the way other people feel about us. And in the process, we disconnect from our feelings about ourselves.  

Honoring ourselves must begin with a willingness to feel ourselves and to acknowledge when something doesn’t feel good.  To ignore our feelings for the sake of someone else’s happiness is to treat ourselves without regard or respect.  And in so doing, we are training them how to treat us.  

Begin honoring yourself by giving yourself permission to feel the full range of your emotions. Emotions are simply energy in motion.  They rise and fall on their own; there is no need to try to control them.  Use your breath to welcome your emotions to the surface where they can be acknowledged and honored for the information they hold.   

Step #2:  Learn to honor your inner “yes” as well as your inner “no.”

Every time we say “yes” when we mean “no,” we are dishonoring ourselves.  

If you often get angry at others for taking advantage of you, it could be that you’re not honoring your inner “no.”  

Part of honoring yourself is protecting your own boundaries, rather than override them to make others happy.  It’s not anyone else’s job to hear, respect or listen to us; it’s up to each of us to advocate for ourselves.   

Honor yourself by making the decision that if something is even slightly a “no,” it’s still a NO, and it deserves to be respected.  You have both the right and the responsibility to communicate your “no” to others, even when it might upset them.  This may feel difficult in the beginning, so remind yourself of the rewards.  Not only will you feel less resentful of others, but you’ll also have more integrity within yourself.  What you feel is important.  What you think is important.  You are important.  And you deserve to honor yourself.     

Step #3:  Honor yourself by deliberately focusing on the benefits, opportunities, and positive aspects of yourself and your life.  

There are only two basic positions you can take in relation to anything in your life. You can either focus on what you perceive as going wrong, or on what you perceive as going right.  When you understand that what you focus on expands, you discover that the most honoring thing you can do is to focus on your positive aspects.

With the power of your focus, you can zoom in to any experience of reality you desire. You can use the power of your mind to find fault or to look for things to praise. You can observe what’s missing, or you can appreciate all that you already have. And whatever reality you direct your focus toward, just know that that reality will expand. 

Focusing on the positive aspects of any person or situation brings us soothing relief.  It’s a way of honoring where we currently stand, even as we’re reaching for more.      

Learning to honor yourself opens the door to all you desire and allows you to appreciate all that you already have.



Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.  Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships.  You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: www.watchyourwords.com.