emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence is a concept that gained popularity decades ago and is now experiencing a resurgence. As a collective consciousness, we are finally understanding the important correlation between emotion and vibration.  

Many of us never learned the principles of strengthening our emotional intelligence.  In fact, lots of us were taught to ignore, suppress, or hide our feelings.  When we felt our feelings, we were often told things like, “Stop crying, or I’ll give you something to cry about.”  We disconnected from our emotions in order to please others.  And in so doing, we diminished our own emotional intelligence.   

Here are 3 important components of emotional intelligence that can help you to raise your vibration and feel better now. 

The first component of emotional intelligence is understanding that emotions are simply energy in motion, and allowing that energy to move.

Scientists and spiritualists agree on at least one thing – that everything in the material world is made of energy.  Everything is energy, and this is especially easy to understand when it comes to our emotions.   The reason some emotions feel wonderful and some feel awful has only to do with how fast the energy is moving.  

At the high-flying, good-feeling end of the spectrum, we experience emotions like possibility, certainty, enthusiasm, empowerment, and ease. And at the low end of that continuum are negative emotions like sadness, fear, discouragement, or frustration.   Granting our full range of emotions the right to exist is the first step to building emotional intelligence.  And, since most of us were taught to suppress our emotions, accepting them requires a bit of un-learning.   

Rather than resisting bad-feeling – or so-called “negative” – emotions when they arise, simply allow them to be.  

Emotions are energy, and energy must be allowed to flow.  If you try to repress or numb a painful emotion, its energy doesn’t just go away. Instead, it can manifest as excessive weight, as a headache, a skin eruption, anxiety, or chronic low energy.   It’s much wiser to simply allow your emotions to move through you, in real-time, at the moment they arise.  

Developing emotional intelligence doesn’t need to be an arduous process.  The next time you notice an emotion welling within you, take a moment to sit with it.   Close your eyes, deepen your breath, and become sensitive to the sensation.   Lean into the feeling rather than recoil from it.  

Feel the whoosh of energy that courses through you when you feel angry or afraid.  And simply be with this energy without getting caught up in the mental dialog of what provoked the feeling or whose fault it is.  You don’t need to attach a story to it, or use anyone else’s behavior to justify the way you’re feeling.  Just be with the emotion as an energy.  Do your best to welcome it.  Every emotion brings with it a powerful message that will benefit you, if you’re open to receiving it. 

The second component of emotional intelligence is understanding your emotions as guides. 

You now understand that different emotional states correspond with varying frequencies of vibration. When your emotional state is high, this means your vibration is also high.  And in this high-flying, resistance-free state, you are receptive and magnetic to the experiences you desire most.  In other words, your emotions are guides that in every moment let you know the vibration you’re offering.  Emotional intelligence is realizing when you’ve disconnected from yourself, and also knowing what to do to reconnect.   

So, the next time you feel that whoosh of energy we call anger, allow it, then seek its underlying message. 

Anger often arises to let us know we’ve allowed someone else to cross an important boundary. Or, it may surface as a signal that we’re overextending ourselves and neglecting our own self-care. 

In every case, our emotional intelligence is always available to guide us back into balance. We simply need to be willing to receive and act on the messages it provides.    

The third element of emotional intelligence is being sensitive to the early, subtle fluctuations in energy.

You do not need to wait until you’re enraged with anger or paralyzed by anxiety to utilize your emotional intelligence. In fact, once the momentum of these emotions is moving at that rate, it’s much harder to interpret their messages. 

With practice, you can become sensitive to the most subtle shifts in your energy field.  You can actually learn to adjust your vibration before your emotions get out of hand.

Emotional intelligence is about understanding that your vibration always follows your focus. If you’re focused on hardships, betrayals, past disappointments or troubling news, your vibration (and your emotions) will let you know.  And just as easily, you can redirect your focus to things that stabilize and uplift your vibration.  

With this self-awareness, you’ll begin to notice the exact moment your emotions begin to dip into that not-feeling-good place.  Your clarity will waver, or disappear completely.  Your mood will falter, or a sense of heaviness will come over you.  Thoughts of worry or guilt may nestle themselves in your stream of consciousness.  Don’t allow these things to take root. Welcome them and receive their wisdom in the early subtle stages, so you can expertly and swiftly make a shift.  



Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.  Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships.  You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: www.watchyourwords.com.