“In the beginning, there was the word.” This celebrated passage from the Bible offers us a clue into the power of words.
The words we speak matter — a lot. They have a tremendous impact on the quality of experiences we attract. With every word you speak, you are literally summoning, invoking, and magnetizing a particular version of reality into existence.
Most people are completely unconscious of the power of the words they speak. And as a result, the words they use often help to create outcomes they don’t actually want to live.
Complaining summons a particular version of reality into existence. So does venting angry, worrisome or paranoid thoughts. Words that affirm what’s wrong; what’s missing, or what displeased us in the past block the very happiness we desire. And using words to “should” on oneself is a primary example of this.
Language doesn’t describe reality; language creates reality.
Language constructs our mental world, colors our perception of life, and forms the basis of what we experience as “real.” Think about the age-old question about whether you describe the proverbial glass as being half empty or half full. How you interpret, explain, and describe something literally becomes your reality. Words have tremendous creative power because they mirror the way you’re perceiving the world.
When you speak about the fact that you don’t yet have something you want, you’re actually using your power of words to accentuate your experience of lack. Therefore, you’ll continue to create the same kinds of lack-based situations, people, events and circumstances that you have right now. This applies to whatever you feel you are lacking – whether it’s a lack of money, support, love, fun, or anything else you might want. You’re using the power of words to miscreate, rather than to manifest what you desire.
How we perceive life is everything. If we perceive the world as hostile, we’ll find evidence of hostility. If we perceive the universe as a friendly place, that’s what we’ll attract. So what are we attracting when we use powerful words such as “I can’t,” “I don’t,” and “I should/shouldn’t”?
Shoulding” on yourself is counter-productive to achieving your goals.
The words “I should” immediately place us into a right/wrong, either/or mindset. When we’re “shoulding” on ourselves, we paint ourselves into a box that severely limits our options. The more you “should” on yourself, the smaller your world becomes, and the more helpless you feel. You’re using the power of words to limit your options and to deprive yourself access to the life-giving gift of free will. And the fact is, you could just as easily use the power of words to affirm your worthiness and your abundance.
Here are 3 statements to move you from a constricting mindset of lack back into a limitless state of abundance. Use these anytime you find yourself “shoulding” on yourself to shift out of regret and into a wider range of options.
Powerful Word Statement #1: Because I have free will, I always have options.
Whenever you find yourself thinking about what you should or shouldn’t do, playfully ask yourself, “What are all my options here?”
For example, do you have the option to take action later, rather than take action now? Do you have the option to stay silent rather than speak? Sometimes, when our energy is misaligned or scattered, the best option is to back away and do nothing at all. Choosing to stay silent when we’re misaligned is a wise application of the power of words.
Regardless of the situation we find ourselves in, we always have the option to approach it with optimism or pessimism. We have the option of pre-paving our intended result, or worrying about an unwanted outcome. And, we can opt to have a bad attitude about whatever we’re doing, or to cultivate a joyful mood instead.
The more you acknowledge the options that are available to you, the more possibilities will come into view. What you focus on expands, so focus in the direction of your freedom rather than on your “shoulds.”
Powerful Word Statement #2: Right now, I can choose to speak about the problem, or to imagine its solution.
Remember, the power of words lies in their ability to create. It’s as if with every word we speak we are casting an energetic spell that later manifests into our reality. So it’s up to each of us to be mindful and intentional about the spells we are casting!
It’s not possible to flow positive and negative energy at the same time. In every moment, you get to make a choice to do one or the other. So, when you find yourself dwelling in a problem, make the powerful choice not to speak of it. Instead, remind yourself that because the problem exists, the solution must also exist, because they are two sides of the same coin. What you turn your attention to will grow and expand in your awareness.
Powerful Word Statement #3: When I relax, I allow my highest good to unfold.
Ultimately, we “should” on ourselves because we believe that we have to work hard to prove ourselves or to manifest the things we desire. But the path to joyous manifestation is one of relaxing, allowing, and attracting – not forcing.
You can use the power of words to remind yourself that the universe holds a bird’s-eye view of your life. Each of your desires has been heard and is known by All-That-Is. By relaxing and allowing, you open the door for the universe to orchestrate even bigger outcomes than you can envision for yourself. Be mindful of your choice of words, and speak only in the direction of that which you desire, never against it.
The moment you put words to any perception, you engage the power of words and add energy to that perception. Our choice of words is what sets the wheels of manifestation into motion, so it’s vital that we choose them wisely.
Christy Whitman is an energy healer, Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. Her latest book, The Desire Factor: How to Embrace Your Materialistic Nature to Reclaim Your Full Spiritual Power is on sale now at www.thedesirefactor.com. Christy communicates with, and for, The Quantum Council, a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand that we are divinely designed for well-being, abundance, success, and loving relationships. You can take the first step in alignment and creating your desires by a free 30-day program called Watch Your Words by going here: www.watchyourwords.com.