The Quantum Council: On What To Do with Negative and Toxic People
Channeled by Christy Whitman
Getting bummed out by negative or toxic people is a very common experience. Here’s how it generally goes:
You’re flying high, in a great mood, and great things are happening. Solutions are presenting themselves, doors are opening, and your life feels like a magic carpet ride.
Then, you meet up with someone – a colleague, family member or significant other – and your good mood comes crashing down.
When you go to explain this – to yourself or someone else – it seems clear enough what happened. The other person’s toxic attitude or negative mood made your good mood impossible to sustain.
Maybe this person is a classic complainer or “poor me” type. Maybe it’s someone you go out of your way to please because you’re so hungry for their acceptance. It could be someone you live with and have patterns of relating that just don’t feel that good.
Whatever the situation, you now feel less happy, less powerful, and less clear-minded than you did prior to the interaction. Instead, you feel frustrated, disappointed, on edge, or confused.
And what makes matters even worse is that you probably blame the other person for the way you feel. After all, you were feeling pretty good before they came along!
To give another person the power to control our mood is to set ourselves up for a lifetime of frustration. Taking responsibility for our own energy field is the path to deliberate creation.
This was the question recently posed to Christy and the Quantum Council:
“How can I maintain a vibration of positivity around negative or toxic people?”The Council is a collection of non-physical ascended masters who desire to help humanity understand our innate creative power and worthiness. Christy Whitman receives the Council’s energetic transmissions, and – as a skilled coach and transformational leader – finds the language to interpret their messages.
What follows are 3 energy mastery principles to support you in maintaining our own vibration regardless of circumstance.
Principle #1: No matter how it seems, you are the only one who controls your vibration.
There is only one reason why you might resist, avoid, judge or feel bad around negative people: It’s because you believe they hold the power to down your mood. And it’s perfectly understandable that you would come to this conclusion.
Human beings are energy transmitters and receivers, which means we are naturally sensitive to energy. Not only do we pick up on the moods of other people, but we often unconsciously harmonize with those moods.
This is great news if those around us are inspired, exhilarated, forward-looking and clear. But it can be very bad news when we run into someone who is negatively or lack-fully focused. In order to maintain the vibration we desire, we must learn to generate our own energetic momentum on purpose.
Principle #2: Where attention goes, energy flows.
This statement is at the basis of the universal Law of Attraction. The frequency of energy we broadcast into the universe gathers energies that are harmonic or resonant in frequency. Think about this for a moment as it relates to negative or toxic people.
Recall the last time you interacted with someone who was in a bad mood and feeling critical of themselves or others. Now go beneath this person’s words and actions and try to hone in on the frequency of energy they were transmitting.
It was a powerful, bad-feeling frequency, right?
The more focus, or air time, you give to any mood or train of thought, the more momentum it gains. When you focus on the negative vibes others are giving off, you unwittingly become a part of that energy stream. And your mood quickly goes downhill in the process.
So instead, decide in advance of each interaction what mood or atmosphere you want to carry with you into that next segment of your day. Take some time to prepare yourself internally, and to generate the essence of that feeling within you.
Remember that your vibration is the sum total of your moment-by-moment thoughts, emotions, moods, beliefs and expectations. And you are the only one who can offer these. No one has the power to assert their bad mood into your experience, because you are the one in control of your focus.
Principle #3: You have the ability to set your frequency on purpose.
Most people try to change the way they feel by seeking to change the people they’re with. When we’re around someone negative, we feel the dip in energy and immediately go to work trying to uplift it.
We may think, “Perhaps if I lighten the mood they will feel better.” Or, “Maybe if I share about a challenge I’ve overcome, they’ll see that transformation is possible for them, too.”
Maybe you’ve noticed: These tactics fail nearly 100% of the time! Not only do they not make the other person feel better, but they send your mood further plummeting as well.
When your energy body registers negativity in someone else, use this as a cue to return your attention to your center. Remind yourself of the mood and tone you seek to generate and go about attending to this powerful inner work.