How To Law Of Attract Your Twin Flame Love

How To Law Of Attract Your Twin Flame Love

There is a common misconception among those trying to use the Law of Attraction to manifest twin flame love. And this misconception causes them to work too hard, cling too tightly to expectations, and often, to become deeply discouraged.

A lot of people think attraction is about asking the universe, in very clear and specific terms, for what we want. They’ve perfected their soulmate wish list down to the last detail, and are constantly on the lookout for a match. But this approach to manifestation has us interact with dating like a series of job interviews. We become too attached to finding the man or woman with the “right” set of qualities or circumstances. And in so doing, we diminish a lot of our creative power, and the process becomes more mechanical than magical.

Achieving clarity of desire is a vital part of the creative process. After all, if we haven’t yet identified what we want, how will we know when we run across it, right? But clarity (aka the “soulmate list”) is just the first step in attracting what we want. To bring your twin flame love all the way home, here are 3 additional steps you must be willing to take.

Step 1: Imagine.

This step takes you deeper than simply listing out the qualities and characteristics you’d like your twin flame to possess. Making that list is a great start, but ultimately you want to shift your focus from them back to you. This means going beyond imagining your twin flame’s great attributes, to imagining how you want to feel in their presence.

Let’s look at a concrete example.

Suppose you’re now clear that you desire to be with someone who is confident. Or someone who’s light-hearted. Or hard working. Or honest, or affectionate, or fill-in-the-blank. Just bring to mind whatever quality comes most easily and quickly to mind. Now take your focus off that quality, and focus instead on how being in its presence would make you feel.

If you were with someone who is confident, what inner qualities within yourself would that confidence make available to you? Do you think you’d feel more relaxed, more trusting, more yielding? If you were with someone light-hearted, what aspects of yourself do you believe would flourish? Would their zest for life ignite your own? Would it give you permission to express your funny or silly side?

We all think we’re searching for someone with that perfect combination of attributes. But what we’re really seeking is to feel a particular way. Identify that feeling, and then imagine how your life would be different –in emotional, feeling terms – if you already felt that way.

Step 2: Believe

Right now, your desire to attract your twin flame love is either being allowed by you, or it’s being blocked by you. And the strength of your belief determines which one it is.

Do you believe more in the possibility of attracting your twin flame, or is the belief in their absence stronger? You cannot have faith in both possibilities at the same time. And the reality you focus on most frequently and intensely is the one you are in the process of creating.

Here are some mantras to bolster your faith whenever you’re leaning more toward doubt than positive belief:

  • The universe knows what I want.
  • I am worthy of experiencing all that I desire.
  • The one I am looking for is also looking for me.
  • I will recognize what I want when I come into contact with it.
  • I know that things are always working out for me.
  • I have faith in the divine timing of the unfolding.
  • If I haven’t met this person yet, I trust it’s because something within me is not yet ready.

Step 3: Receive

Receiving is the necessary counterpart to asking, and it is a vital part in any process of creation. To attract your twin flame love, you must make yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, and energetically receptive to it. From a simple physiological standpoint, you can’t take in anything new if your hand is clenched tightly into a fist. To receive, your hand must be open.

Likewise, in order to attract anything new, more or different than what you’ve already got, you must first make space for it within yourself. And you do this by becoming open to receive.

Twin flame love is very unique, and much more spiritually significant than a typical relationship. Your twin flame will inspire you to bring forth your very best qualities and to access greater levels of joy. To be a match for this person, you must become willing to expand your capacity for abundance in all forms. And this begins with expanding your capacity to love yourself.

Begin or recommit to a daily process of appreciating your most positive aspects. These are the things you love most about who you are – and about who you are becoming. The more things about yourself and your life that you find to appreciate, the more receptive – and attractive – you will be.

Christy Whitman is a transformational leader, celebrity coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. For more insights like these on how to create joyous, fulfilling relationships, join her on the Conscious, Connected Coupling Podcast or receive her free online training at

What Happens When You Fall Out Of Love With Your Twin Flame But Still Want Them In Your Life

As this quote by beloved author Wayne Dyer suggests, love is truly what makes the world go round!

“Love creates new form, changes matter, and holds the cosmos together beyond time and space. It’s in every one of us. It’s what God is.”
– Wayne Dyer 

The experience of falling in love is like being lifted out of a hum-drum existence and into something much greater. When we come together with a twin flame, we connect with a bigger possibility for ourselves and our lives. That’s why it feels so good and so right. 

Sometimes the relationship between twin flames continues to grow, expand, and evolve over time.  When this happens, the two remain happily coupled for many years, or even a lifetime.  

Other times, the form of the relationship must change in order for one or both individuals to continue to expand.   So what happens when you fall out of love with your twin flame? Does that mean the connection you once had is gone forever, and there is no more possibility for expansion?  Not necessarily. By allowing the relationship to change form, it can continue to be a nourishing and beneficial part of your life.

Here are 3 principles you’ll need to embrace in order to maintain a healthy, on-going relationship with your twin flame: 

Principle #1:  Recognize this person as a catalyst for your growth, not the source of it.  

The good feelings you associated with your twin flame had less to do with them than you may think. The sensation we describe as falling in love is really the experience of coming back into energetic alignment with ourselves.  The other person becomes an object of attention that feels great to focus on. In them, we see possibilities for our lives we may never have seen before. Suddenly, we’re inspired; we have more energy and creativity, and we see all things from a fresh perspective.  Twin flame relationships awaken us to our latent potential and unrealized possibility. They mirror back to us parts of ourselves we haven’t before seen or have become disconnected from. That’s one of the reasons they’re so attractive.

Given the intensity of the connection, we feel let down – even depressed – when a twin flame relationship loses its spark.   But remember that the fire that your twin flame ignited still exists within you. He or she was a catalyst to your connection; not the source or the cause of it.  You have the ability to stoke that fire and to keep the flames burning brightly.   

You can do this by asking yourself introspective questions, such as:

  • Which of my positive aspects did my relationship with my twin flame inspire?
  • What did I love most about myself as I related with that person?
  • What strengths or wisdom do I now possess as a result of our relationship?

Principle #2:  Embody the changes you wanted your twin flame to make.   

When relationships begin to fall apart, it’s easy to focus on all the things the other person “should” change.  If only they were more communicative – or more spiritual, more committed, or more affectionate – the relationship could have continued.   But to hold the other person responsible for our falling out of love does two very unproductive, disempowering things. First, it causes us to focus on their behavior, which is something over which we have absolutely no control. And second, it may keep us from making important changes within ourselves. 

The qualities, character traits, and behaviors we find the most intolerable in others can provide us valuable information about ourselves.   You can use what you perceive as your twin flame’s shortcomings as a catalyst for your own growth.  

If you felt they’re not as committed to their spiritual practice as you would have liked, commit more fully to yours. If you always wished they were more into spending time in nature, spend more time in nature yourself.  Start being the person you want to be now.   This will free your twin flame from your projections, and it will also free you to be the best version of yourself you can be.   

Principle #3:  Bless your twin flame for the role they played in your evolution.

Falling out of love with someone doesn’t mean we need to negate the positive impact they’ve had in our lives.  In fact, to do so is to deny ourselves a valuable piece of our own evolution.  

What clarity did your twin flame evoke within you about the type of relationship you now desire?  What wisdom or strengths did he or she help you to strengthen within yourself? Acknowledge the many ways your twin flame has contributed to your life, and bless them for the role that they played.

Christy Whitman is a transformational leader, celebrity coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. For more insights like these on how to create joyous, fulfilling relationships, join her on her Conscious, Connected Coupling Podcast at or on iTunes.

How To Know If Your Twin Flame Love Is The Soulmate You’ve Been Searching For

Ah…. the notion of finding your true soulmate and experiencing twin flame love. Almost everyone – men and women alike – have been raised on this romantic notion.

The golden slipper that fit only Cinderella’s delicate foot.

The damsel who would only awaken from her eternal slumber by the kiss of the handsome prince.

The famous line from the 1996 movie Jerry Maguire, where Tom Cruise says those three unforgettable words to Renée Zellweger: “You complete me.”

From fairy tales and pop culture alike, we’ve been taught that there is one perfect soulmate for each of us. And that if we’re beautiful enough, diligent enough, or just plain lucky, we’ll somehow find that person.

The idea of twin flame love may be delightfully romantic, but it’s not very actionable. Are we to scour the planet, searching for our soulmate? Or walk around every corner hoping to bump into “the one?”

Twin flame love absolutely exists, and when you find it, you’ll know for sure it’s the soulmate you’ve been searching for. But, unlike it’s depicted in movies, we don’t stumble into it by luck. These very special people come into our experience for unique and meaningful reasons. And once we are ready to receive the wisdom they have to bring us, our rendezvous with them will be unavoidable.
There are three primary components that define soulmate relationships and twin flame love. Once you learn to recognize these, you’ll see that there is not one perfect person for you that you must find. Instead, you’ll realize there is the potential of finding perfection in every person you meet.

Soulmate Quality #1: Resonance

Resonance is defined as “the quality in a sound of being deep, full, and reverberating.”

Twin flames and soulmates exist in every walk of life – as intimate partners, friends, family members – even coworkers. Whatever form they take, a primary characteristic that defines these types of relationships is that of resonance.

You’ll feel a familiarity with this person, as if you’ve known them before. Maybe you’re on the same wavelength intellectually, or share the same sense of humor.

If it’s a romantic partner, you may feel that strong pull of sexual chemistry. Or, you could experience an entirely different type of attraction that is completely non-sexual in nature.

There’s just something about this person that draws you to them. You want to know them and be known by them. There is true resonance between you.

Soulmate Quality #2: Expansion

Soulmate relationships and twin flame love – whatever form they take – always serve as a catalyst for expansion. The initial resonance we feel when meeting these people draws us to them. But there is even a deeper purpose for connection that is revealed over time.
A soulmate or twin flame may enter our lives to enhance our spiritual growth. Some will reignite a long lost passion. Almost always, they will shake up the status quo. These people enter our lives to bring us some specific knowledge. They set us on a path of self-discovery.

A twin flame relationship may be long-term or fleeting, depending on whether we are here to learn the same things. If you are wildly drawn to one of these very special people and later grow apart, don’t worry. Be grateful for all they’ve taught you, and open to the possibility that you may, in fact, reunite. Life has a funny way of circling back around.

#3: Challenge

Twin flame love doesn’t unfold as it does in the movies, with the happy couple riding off into the sunset. Because these people are drawn into our lives to support our expansion, there will be many challenges along the way.

Remember, you are not the only one being called to grow and expand. Your presence in their life has also shaken up the status quo, and maybe even called into question their identity.

For the relationship to endure long-term, communication is essential. You may feel great when you’re with this person, but are your deeper values aligned? Do you want the same things out of life? Are you headed in the same general direction? How do your priorities match up?

The earlier you discover these things, the easier it will be to create a relationship with this person that fits.

Twin flame love is distinct from the kind of love we experience in any other relationship. It goes far beyond physical attraction or even mental affinity. When you encounter someone who meets these criteria, pay close attention. They have been brought into your life to fulfill a very unique and special purpose.

Christy Whitman is a transformational leader, celebrity coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. For more insights like these on how to create joyous, fulfilling relationships, join her on her Conscious, Connected Coupling Podcast.

How to Know If You’re Experiencing Twin Flame Love Or Something Else

Throughout the course of your life, you will experience many different types of love.  And while English uses the word “love” to describe them all, the ancient Greeks described 3 distinct types of love.

Eros refers to sexual or passionate love.  Philia, or deep friendship, describes a relationship built on companionship, dependability, and trust.  The Greek word agape refers to the universal respect and regard we feel toward all living beings.  

However, Twin Flame love is distinct from all of these, although it can occur between lovers, family members, friends and strangers alike.

Twin Flame love is possible in any relationship, not just in the context of a romantic partnership.  Your twin flame may be someone you feel connected to in sisterhood or someone you co-create easily within business.  It’s just as common to experience twin flame love with a family member as with the love of your life.

What distinguishes Twin Flame love from other, less impactful relationships is the quality of the connection between you.  When it comes to recognizing these people, the outer form of the relationship is not important. What is most telling is the quality of the connection.  

Here are 4 characteristics that can help you to know if you’re experiencing Twin Flame love or something else.

Characteristic #1:  You feel at home with this person.  

Whether it’s a lover or a co-worker, you’ll recognize a twin flame as a member of your tribe or soul family.  With this person, you may feel a warm sense of familiarity, even if you’ve just met. Or you may experience an unsettling sense of déjà vu – as if you’ve known each other before.  Either way, you instinctively feel that you can be yourself with this person. You feel accepted and at ease in their presence.

Characteristic #2:  You immediately feel an intense, almost uncontrollable reaction to this person.

We often think of twin flame love as feeling an inexplicable, positive pull toward someone.  But just as often, these powerful relationships are marked by a genuine feeling of disdain or even revulsion.  You will gain as much – if not more – from the turbulence between you as you do from the fun times.   

Whether your reaction is positive or negative, the intensity of your feelings what sets twin flame love apart.  The bottom line is, there is nothing neutral about this powerful connection.

Characteristic #3:  You sense you have something important to teach, or to learn from, this person.

We call people to us at particular times, depending on what our souls are ready to teach and to learn.  Your Twin Flame may stir within you an intense curiosity. As familiar as they are, there is something mysterious and unknown about them too, which you feel compelled to discover.

But just as often, they may evoke in you a desire to want to contribute to or protect them.  Both of these reactions are signs that you have been brought together for an important reason.  Regardless of the form your love takes, you will play a significant role in each other’s lives.

Characteristic #4:  Your relationship may progress faster than what you’re used to (or are comfortable with).  

Even if you have considerations or doubts about where the relationship is going, you’ll feel compelled to move forward nonetheless.  The twin flame relationship is always intense and can quickly become a main focal point in your life. Others may question your judgment, or insist that you’re moving too fast.

This person awakens you to parts of yourself that you may never have known existed.  You intuitively sense that being with them will open up new possibilities for your life.  And as a result, you find yourself feeling up for the ride, no matter where it takes you or how fast.     

When it comes to knowing if you’re experiencing Twin Flame love or something else, intuition is your primary asset.  Above all else, it’s a connection you feel and gravitate toward naturally. Not something you have to talk yourself into.

Christy Whitman is a transformational leader, celebrity coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. For more insights like these on how to create joyous, fulfilling relationships, join her on her Conscious, Connected Coupling Podcast at or on iTunes.


Why Is The Attraction Between Twin Flames So Powerful?

How do you explain the extra interest or resonance you feel when you meet certain people?  The answer to this question lies in understanding the powerful attraction that exists between twin flames.

There are 4 main characteristics that make Twin Flame relationships distinct from all other types of relationships.  After exploring each of these qualities, you’ll understand why the attraction between twin flames is so powerful. And you’ll be able to use this understanding to your benefit.

Characteristic #1:  Twin Soul relationships are magnetic, meaning they can both attract and repel.  

A twin flame connection can occur as inexplicable, positive pull that you feel toward someone.  This attraction could take the form of instant sexual chemistry or a strange sense of familiarity.  Maybe it’s an overwhelming feeling of curiosity about this person and a desire to get to know them better.  

But just as often, these powerful relationships begin with a genuine feeling of discomfort or even revulsion.  

Hate is not the opposite of love, and revulsion is not the opposite of attraction.  Both are magnetic forces that act upon us in powerful and often unconscious ways. But one thing you’ll never feel with a twin flame is indifference.  Whether you are magnetized to them by how much you love them or hate them, they get your attention.

Think about the mentor who pokes and prods you to the next level of mastery in your field.  Or the family member who refuses to buy into your limiting story and demands greatness from you instead…  

Oftentimes, those who frustrate, antagonize or exasperate us are also twin flames.  Something about them causes unrest within us. And surrendering to the evolution they trigger within us is the only way to regain our balance.    

Characteristic #2: Twin flame relationships awaken us to our latent potential and unrealized possibility.

Whether you view them as an enemy or ally, your twin flame will awaken something deep within you.  Perhaps being with them alerts you to aspects of yourself that you’ve previously repressed or denied.  Or maybe this person embodies a particular quality that your soul is ready to express. But it’s not just that you admire this person’s qualities.  Their positive qualities awaken you to a possibility for who and how you can be that you’ve never seen before.

Your twin flame holds a piece of your future – that’s why you’re so attracted to them.  Acknowledge this, and accept the information as a gift.

Characteristic #3:  Twin flame relationships are divinely inspired, not personality or ego driven.  

Ego driven relationships are built primarily around external circumstances:  We choose partners because of their physical stature or financial status. And we look for conditions in others about which we can have a good-feeling response.   

In these relationships, both partners tend to favor the status quo, and individual differences are seen as threatening.  If one half of a couple begins to focus on his or her individual growth, the relationship may start to unwind.

In contrast, most twin soul relationships may actually erode our ego personality, but will inspire our spiritual growth.   

A twin flame will act as a catalyst for your spiritual growth – and you to theirs.  Chances are your relationship will be tumultuous at times as you navigate your shared and individual journeys.  Remember that your first responsibility is to find harmony, peace, and alignment within yourself. And, if taking your own path of least resistance results in a temporary or long-term uncoupling, have faith in this process.


Characteristic #4:  Twin flame relationships may break apart and come back together many, many times.  

This is the kind of relationship that just won’t go away, but keeps resurfacing in new forms over time.  This is because as you evolve, you find more points of dissonance between you and the connection diminishes.  But as you continue to evolve together, you eventually find more points of harmony as well.

As a result, those with a twin flame connection may split apart and come back together many times.  This is not necessarily a bad thing, and it’s usually not the result of game playing or manipulation. We break apart because we aren’t yet ready for the growth that our togetherness would demand.  It’s true spiritual ambivalence. A part of us is ready for the challenge, and a part of us is terrified by it.

When conflicts arise, time alone provides an opportunity to reassess what’s really important to us in partnership.  If your relationship feels too painful to continue, it may be a sign to release some old emotional baggage.

Whether you run away or they do, know that the separation is not personal.  It doesn’t mean the relationship is over; it just means there is more growing to do.   

Surrender to the ebb and flow of this relationship.  Know that it is always leading you in the direction of your own growth.  It is your readiness for or resistance to that growth that will determine how joyful or miserable the ride.  

Christy Whitman is a transformational leader, celebrity coach, and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance. For more insights like these on how to create joyous, fulfilling relationships, join her on her Conscious, Connected Coupling Podcast at or on iTunes.