How the Law of Vibration Will Help You Attract Your Soulmate, But Only When You’re Truly Ready

How the Law of Vibration Will Help You Attract Your Soulmate, But Only When You’re Truly Ready

The bottom line?  Your readiness to meet your soulmate is completely under your control, because it’s not about what you do or how you look.  It’s only about how good you feel.

So, what is the Law of Vibration, and how can it help you attract your soulmate?

The Law of Vibration takes into account a new understanding of the true nature of the universe in which we live.  Thanks to discoveries in the field of quantum physics, we now know that everything in the manifest universe, which appears to be so solid and material – like the chair you’re sitting on or the screen you’re looking at – is made up entirely of energy.  

Our physical bodies are comprised of energy, and so are our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and desires. All energy vibrates at its own particular frequency.  And this frequency is transmitted through the airwaves like a radio signal, and is registered by everyone and everything around us.

The Law of Vibration is based on the understanding that the people, situations and experiences that we draw into our lives are always a perfect energetic match to the frequency that we are sending out through the actions we take, the words we speak, and most significantly, through the feelings, moods, perceptions and conclusions that we harbor in the privacy of our own hearts and minds.   Even if we never voice them, they are silently but powerfully conveyed to all-that-is, because the universe responds not to our words, but to our vibration. All that we manifest and don’t manifest into our lives is governed by the laws of vibration and attraction.

So, how can you learn to navigate this invisible world of vibration and prepare yourself energetically to call in the love of your life?  

Here is a 3-step process for using the Law of Vibration to make sure you’re truly ready to attract your soulmate.

Listen to your built-in guidance system.

Thankfully, understanding vibration isn’t as elusive as it might seem, because each of us was born with an emotional guidance system that allows us to decipher the vibration that we’re offering in every moment, and with a little practice, we can learn to calibrate it to magnetize any outcome we desire.  

You can be sure that your vibration is ready to receive your soulmate when your dominant thoughts and emotions on the topic are high-flying, fast-moving, and you feel fabulous when you contemplate your eventual rendezvous.  

When you’re not slowing down your desire with resistance, this meeting unfolds naturally, joyfully, and often in ways you could never have predicted.  But on the other side of this spectrum, if thinking about your soulmate brings up feelings of discouragement or self-doubt, the internal tug-of-war you feel within you is evidence that some part of you is pulling in opposition to your own desire.  

All that is necessary for you to become vibrationally ready for your soulmate to enter your life is to stop opposing your own desire.  

Said another way, the better you feel, the more easily you will attract him or her.  Step two of this process will help to get you there.

Release yourself from the past.  

Feelings like resentment, disappointment, unworthiness, jealousy or self-doubt carry extremely low-vibration energy.   To the extent that we allow ourselves to dwell on what we perceive as a painful past, we will continue to hold ourselves vibrationally apart from the soulmate relationship we desire.  To release this energy, focus on the clarity that ultimately came out of each of your past experiences.

How many times has something initially disappointing led you to something truly wonderful?  What have your previous relationships taught you about the qualities that you value most in a soulmate?  

By focusing on the clarity you now have as a result of what you have lived, you’ll raise your vibration, drastically improve the way you feel, and strengthen your positive attraction power.   


Conjure the essence of your desire.

Behind every desire – big or small, intangible or material – is a longing to experience a particular feeling.  At the essence of your desire to attract your soulmate is a belief that being with him or her will make you feel a certain way.  If you can identify this essential feeling and consciously nurture it within yourself, you will not only speed the attraction process, but you’ll also ensure that the one you’re calling in is a match to what’s truly important to you in a mate.  

To uncover the essence behind your desire to meet your soulmate, you need only ask yourself two questions:  

Why do I want to be with this person?   

If I were already with him or her, how do I think I would feel?  

When you align your thoughts, emotions, imagination and beliefs with the essence of anything you desire, you draw it to you on the current of your vibration, invisibly and yet powerfully magnetizing it into your life.

These three steps will take your creative powers to a realm that is deeper than what can be experienced through physical senses, and will yield you results dramatically different than what can be accomplished through physical action alone.  Resonant vibrations are naturally drawn together through the powerful Law of Attraction.

By aligning your vibration with the feeling essence of what you desire in a soulmate relationship, you’ll attract someone who reflects and enhances the very highest aspects of you.   


Why Timing is Important in Communication

People say communication is essential in every relationship. However, one must understand the value of timing in every conversation. Often, you and your partner need to both make a decision on some things where you need the other’s undivided attention. However, untimely conversation and improper tone about certain things can be a source of frustrations that lead to conflicts. Learn how to effectively improve communication with timing by planning and setting the time to share, express, and have a mutual agreement on what you feel with your partner.

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Below is a transcript of the video and audio above. The paragraphs and sections are alternated between bold / not bold for ease of reading along with the video or audio.

Why Timing Is Important In Communication

This show is all about timing. When you have something urgent for you, it may not be the best timing for your partner. We’re going to talk about timing and how important it is. My time might be different from his time. I know that in the early part of our relationships, both of us, this is not a gender thing. It’s not like, “All females do this, all males do this or kids do this.” We all do this as humans. We have something that is on our mind. We’re like, “I have to talk about this.” I run up to him. I’m like, “I’ve got to talk to you about this.” He’s in the middle of making lunch or something.

First of all, a lot of women complain about our partner’s not paying attention, listening or being able to hear us. When you work with this part of timing that we’re going to discuss, you’ve got his undivided attention because you’ve agreed he’s agreed with you. “I want to talk to you about this kid soccer this weekend.” He’s like, “Right now.” I’m like, “No, let’s talk after we drive the kids off for school or after you’re done. When is it good for you?” You check in with each other. I’ve got this to talk about. It’s on my mind.

What I’ve done is started writing a list of, “We’ve got to talk about the taxes. We’ve got to talk about the soccer tournament. We’ve got to talk about my mom’s birthday. When is a good time to sit down and talk about it?” We’ll make an appointment. “I’m going to drive the kids. I’m going to go work out. Can we do it then?” “No, I’ve got a client then, but I’m free from this time to this time.” “Do you want to grab lunch?” “Yeah, let’s do it over lunch.” At lunch, he knows that I have something to talk about. He’s aware I need his attention. I need his input on something.

What’s important that it’s not coming from a perspective where I’m receiving it as a dump of information. I don’t know what to do with all of that information. Hence, the surprise of, “Do we have to talk about this now?” You want to be specific on the request of wanting to talk to each other and not feeling that it’s a dump of information, the urgency of it. There’s nothing that’s too urgent unless it is urgent. All that to say is we all run our story in our heads. Whether we’re reading, whether we’re watching TV, whether we’re doing any type of activity, we are doing something and we’re thinking of continuous thoughts in our heads. All of a sudden, when our partner comes up to us thinking, “Now it’s time to talk to my partner about the taxes, about whatever the plan for tomorrow.” We’re not there. We’re not tracking at the same level yet. You can’t expect your other partner, your other half to say, “It’s good.” No, it’s not. It’s that we’ve got to find the right timing for both of us to agree when this is the right time to start talking about the planning of the date together or the soccer tournament or whatever.

We’re not talking about everyday conversations like walking him and go, “The puppy run up the stairs or the kids did this,” or whatever it is. We’re talking about when something is a topic that you need a decision, you need to discuss something that’s like taxes, my in-laws coming into town, things that you need to both make a decision on. You’ve made a decision, but you want to tell your partner about it. It’s a big decision. It might have something to do with money or finances or something like that. That’s what we’re talking about. It’s something where you need the person’s undivided attention, not when they’re making lunch, not when they’re getting ready to walk out the door, not when they’re in the middle of watching a hockey game.

We had such a situation where Frederic came out to me, he was like, “I checked out the bills. We’re going to need this amount.” I was getting ready to go out with a bunch of girlfriends. I wasn’t in bill mode. I wasn’t in like, “What are the bills that we have or the money that we need for the bills in our account.” It was like, “I’m going to get to go play with my friends,” mode. I was all dolled up, ready to go, literally almost grab my purse to get up and go. He came into the office and said that to me. It was like the timing on that was bad. A perfect example of him saying, “I’ve got to talk to you about the bills. Can I do that now or when you get back?” I would’ve said, “No, I’m walking out of the door. Let’s do it when I get back.” We realize this because in our marriage this did cause some conflict.

We see this with the couples that have been in our couple’s retreat, the couples that we coached together. It’s that timing is one of those things that it can knock someone off of their path and knock someone off of what they’ve got going on. Other examples that we’ve understood what as we communicate about timing is he’s a night guy. I’m more of a morning person. He comes alive at night. We would be sitting there and I usually do my three warnings of, “I’ve got to go to bed,” and then I wait a little bit. I say, “I’ve got to go to bed.” Usually, on the third time, I’m like, “I’ve got to go to bed.” Right before I make that announcement or even between, he used to say, “I talked to the accountant and he needs this and this.” I would be like, “Are you kidding me?”

I am winding down and that jolt of Information because I’m such an accomplishment junkie, now I’m thinking about it like a dog with a bone. Now I’ve got this to do. I couldn’t go to sleep because now I’ve got to get this for the accountant. Instead of going to bed, I would then go downstairs to the office and get what I needed for the accountant. My mind doesn’t work that way. The same thing with him. I can’t wake him up in the morning and go, “I need to talk to you. Are you going to drive the kids to school? I’m going to go to the gym. Leslie is going to come over and we’re going to go to breakfast.” He’d be like, “Too much information in the morning.”

You could see how it’s a source of frustration and it can cause conflicts. Does it ever happen where we’ll never do that? No, it comes back. There is a way to figure that out. I came to her without asking her, “Is this a good time?” It does happen. When it does happen, the intensity is not as strong as in other situations. The conflict is not as big because now we’re both aware of how to realize and how to say things to each other where we come together and we realize that the timing is good. We both agree with a certain subject that we feel that it’s important to talk about together.

If your partner comes to you and says, “I need to talk to you about this,” you could say, “Right now is not a good time. It’s not the time for that. Can we talk after the kids go to bed or can we talk later?” You can initiate it either way. For me as a woman, for example, I could come to him and say, “I need to talk to you about the kids’ soccer tournament. Let me know when a good time is for you.” Letting them know that it’s not now that I need to talk to him about it but let me know what’s good for you. I’m respecting him, I’m considering him. He gets to tell me what’s good for him.

Perfect love, I’ll receive what she’s saying and then I’ll respond according to my schedule. Either I say, “Perfect love, I’ll come back to you. I’ll check my entire schedule. See what the best moment, the best time is.” I’ll let her know, “Perfect, I’m ready to talk to you. Let’s do it tomorrow at breakfast together.” We can spend the time doing that.

The other thing is if your partner comes to you and says, “I’ve got to talk to you about the bills or I’ve got to talk to you about accounting or it’s important I give you the schedule right now.” It’s like, “Honey, it’s not the right timing. I’m not going to be able to be present with you. I need to focus on what I’m doing.” He’ll come to my office sometimes now and go, “I’ve got to talk to you about this.” I’m like, “I’m getting on a client call. I’ve got to focus on what I’m doing or I’m about to teach a class, can I talk to you about it after?” He’s like, “Sure, no problem.” It’s an effective way to communicate. That’s the initial communication. What happens is that stick with the agreed upon time. Your relationship is not a business. It’s not like, “We have an appointment at [2:00].”

Timing: In a relationship, it’s not all on one person to take care of everything; instead, you should support one another.


It’s a loving relationship. It’s a way to agree again on certain subjects together as a partnership because it’s easy to say, “Take care of it, love. I don’t want to deal with that.” That’s not any better. It’s like there’s still these areas in life where both of you as a partnership come together and deal with those situations. Maybe it’s not a subject that is important to you. At least you get to know that decision that she or he is taking. You don’t need to know all of the steps. Sometimes she tells me, “Don’t be too specific. Tell me generally.” I’ll tell her, “I’ve handled that situation. It’s being taken care of. I want you to know it’s done.” She knows that it’s done. It’s not an avoiding of a certain subject.

I’ll take care of this. You take care of that. You’d have to be aware in each of the things that surround your couple because then if he makes a decision, I’m not aware of it. He figures. I’m like, “I don’t want to know about it, but I don’t agree with it,” or if it was out of alignment. Now we’ve talked about it. We at least discussed it. It’s him to take care of.

It’s no surprises that can arise into conflict and drama or situation that we don’t necessarily want.

We don’t want him to be the rescuer of something and then we feel like a victim of something. We’re going to get into the drama triangle and how that interacts in our relationships. I know there have been some people that said, “We’d love more information on parenting, not inside the drama triangle and how we handle it with our kids and things like that.” Now with timing, approach your partner with, “I need to talk about this. I’d like to talk about this. Is now a good time or when would be a good time for you?” Let him or she respond. Grab lunch or sit down after you agreed upon, after the kids had gone to school, after the kids had gone to bed, after you’ve had your breakfast, after you’re done with your workout. Whatever it is, whatever you mutually agreed upon.

When you go to be with each other and you have this list of things that you need to talk about or it might be one thing like accounting, finances, your mother-in-law coming into town, whatever it is. You can then say in the language that we shared about in other episodes, “I feel this. I would prefer this. I would appreciate this. It’s important for me that,” so that you’re coming from the I. “I know your mom is coming into town for a week and I would prefer that you and I have a little bit of alone time or we have a break,” or whatever it is. “The bills are coming up or this amount is due.”

I would love for us to be prepared for this occasion that we have.

You’re coming from the I. You’re sharing how you feel to your partner, letting him or her express themselves as well how they feel about this subject. Remember that you have choices. It’s not one way or the other way. When you’re brainstorming options, be open to all the different options. Agree on what you need to agree on and how that person than be the one that’s responsible. It’s like, “I’ve got this.” Timing everything. It’s like when he says, “I’ve got that.” I can then relax. It’s up to him to follow through with what he’s got, whether it’s taking the kids to school or signing them up for soccer or whatever it is. If he’s going to watch the puppy, I’ve got this. I have to be able to relax and let go of my control and have faith and trust that my partner is there to support me in this relationship that we have and all that we’ve created together. He’s got it. I have to allow him completely in the space of the Law of Allowing to trust him that he’s got it. It’s important for him to communicate with me that I feel secure. I feel reassured that he’s taken care of it.

It’s important that it’s not all on one person to take care of everything from the household or to take care of one aspect of the relationship. It wears that person down in the end. I believe that we support each other. We’re both there. We both acknowledge every aspect of our lives together. That makes it even more of a connected couple, her and me and more of an intimate couple as well.

I want to close by saying that I love listening to classic rock. I’m a rocker. I was listening to the radio on the Sirius FM or whatever in the classic rock station. The Romantics came on and that song What I Like About You. I was like, “That’s such a good point to bring up for our show. When you think about that song, what I like about you, the way you hold me tight. It’s a song that’s focused on what do I like about you? What do I love about you? What do I appreciate about you? Whether you’re reading the blog with your partner or not, it always takes one to start initiating the subject. Start thinking about changing from the inside out instead of looking for the things that are wrong and bad, looking for the things that are right and good. The things that you do cherish about your partner and things that you love, the things that you appreciate and feel that’s within yourself. Do something to compliment your partner, to appreciate your partner.

We’ve been going a lot with the kids and the puppy. I didn’t feel like going outside because it was dark. He still needed to eat. I was like, “Babe, do you want me to prepare your meal so you could take Jax out?” He said, “Yeah.” I prepared his meal. He sat down and ate. He came up to me, made sure I had his full undivided attention and said, “I want to thank you for preparing my meal. I appreciate that.” I was able to say to him, “Thank you for taking care of Jax. I appreciate what you did.” It’s a moment in a busy life, two small kids, puppy, business, household and we’re nuts, all the stuff. It’s those small moments where we can look at each other in the eyes and say, “I appreciate how you supported me, how you helped me, how you looked at me, how you complimented me,” any of those things. It starts from the inside out and starts thinking about what you love about your partner, what you appreciate about your partner. Any final words?

Be aware and loving to each other.

Next episode is going to be on your beliefs. Stay tuned for next time. Give us a review on iTunes. If you want to learn more about our online or in-person events, coaching, anything that we have that’s the Conscious Connected Coupling with Frederic and Christy, you can go to Have a great day.

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Couples Retreat Call

If you are in a committed relationship this is for you

As you might be aware, Frederic and I are doing our first ever Couple’s Retreat in Scottsdale, Arizona February 8-10th.

This is a very private, intimate and healing retreat for committed couples.

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We will be only 10 couples, so it is intimate, and you will have special time with your partner to re-connect, push a re-set button on your relationship, and create a collective vision for your future.

So if you are in a committed, loving, conscious relationship and you are wanting to push the reset button and create even more love, fun, and expansion come join us on the Zoom call (details below) on Monday, January 14th at 6pm PT/7pm MT/8pm Central/9pm ET.

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Saying yes to your relationship, taking the time to invest in your individual development, and investing in time and healing together as a couple will create massive rewards, both now and in the future.

Frederic and I know first hand what it is like to come together in love and have the potential of the things in our daily lives pull us away from our love, connection and intimacy.

We have been through a lot in our 12 year relationship, still learning every day, and one thing remains; that is our commitment to creating a loving, lasting, fun and connected relationship. We are both committed to the deepening of our love.

And I know you are too. Come play with us and get all your questions answered on Monday night.

Be well and feel my gratitude for you,


P.S. You can come to the call with or without your partner. And I will provide a energy healing so you can get a taste of the weekend even if you decide not to join us.

What is your fighting style?

First, let me just say HAPPY NEW YEAR!

This is a brand new year, with brand new energy, and a fresh new start.

What is your essence for 2019? What would you like your new year to be all about? What is the dominant feeling that you want to experience?

These questions are important to answer in order to be deliberate in creating what you want in your life.

Today is the last of the three-part shows on couples and what you need to get clean and clear on in your relationships in order to have a conscious, loving couple.

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Frederic and I discuss What is Your Fighting Style? And this is what is critical in any relationship.

How do you relate and communicate when you have contrast that shows up?

What are the rules of what to do and what NOT to do when you get in a disagreement?

I’m looking forward to continuing the conversation with you.

Frederic and I are doing our first ever couples retreat and today is the last day to sign up!

If you are interested in joining us in Scottsdale, Arizona for an amazing, intimate and healing Couple’s Retreat on February 8-10th please email

With much love,


P.S. Next week on the show I have a special meditation to help you release what you don’t want, and bring in what you do want. Enjoy:)

Couples Retreat

Come enjoy a weekend away with your partner…

I am a huge believer in feeding your relationships.

Each relationship we have needs our love, attention, time, and focus.

Our relationships are living, breathing entities.

Especially our intimate relationships.

If you have been in an intimate relationship for a long period of time, you understand that even if both people have the best intentions, contrast shows up and it can leave scars on the couple.

What if you could easily release the resistance from the past and with strong intention and positive action create the dream relationship that you want?

You can!

And your relationship doesn’t have to be bad to make it even better.

If creating a deeper connection with your life partner is a priority for you in 2019, then Frederic and myself invite you to come spend the weekend with us at the gorgeous Scottsdale Resort on Feb 8-10.

You can click on the video below to hear more about the event.

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We will be only 10 couples, so it is intimate, and you will have special time with your partner to re-connect, push a re-set button on your relationship, and create a collective vision for your future.

You will learn and apply:

  • How to untangle from The Drama Triangle.
  • Create language of love and power.
  • The 7 areas that most couples don’t discuss and need to create intentionally in order to have a loving, conscious relationship.
  • Transformational rituals and other energetic shifting processes with The Council of Light.

The room we will be in for part of the program is called The Council. Which is so perfect, since I channel The Council of Light.

The food and accommodations are included for you and your partner. As well as the ceremonies, special dinner, and all activities.

You and your partner will have a pre-retreat call with Frederic and myself as well as a post-retreat call a couple of weeks after the event.

To register email

We hope you see you there!

Christy & Frederic

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