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No matter who you are, where you grew up, or what your family situations were, you are, and always have been, abundant. You are already an abundant being, and you were born that way. Our entire universe is abundant. That is the truth of who we are, and that is the truth of our universe.
Most of us have been programmed out of abundance and programmed to think in lack. It is our limited thinking or limited beliefs (false beliefs) that has caused us to have lack in our lives. We are always creating from our attitudes and beliefs. Whatever we ask the Universe for, we receive. We don’t necessarily ask with our words, but with the vibrations that we send out. The Universe is supporting us all the time, no exceptions, no matter what. The question is, how are you asking the Universe to support you?
Knowing the Universal Laws is like knowing the rules of the game, or having a recipe to bake a cake. If you follow the rules or the recipe that so many successful and abundant people have, you too will be living your abundant life. It is law. It doesn’t work for one person and not another. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you live. The same rules apply. If you feel abundant and connect with the abundance in the Universe, you will experience more and more abundance. This is the Law of Abundance and Sufficiency. This could translate to better supportive relationships, more money, more success, more love, more time, more freedom and more joy in every area of your life – abundance in all good things.
Most people are experiencing abundance, but it is an abundance of struggle, pain, heartache, debt, ill-health, etc. The choice is yours as an amazing deliberate creator what type of abundance you want in your life. The Universe only knows abundance, so choose. Do you want an abundance of all good things, or an abundance of lack? You create it your way. You create your life based on what you believe you deserve.
When you start feeling and believing that you are abundant, that you deserve abundance, and that you are valuable, you will see your outer reality change. Your entire outer reality is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself. If you see areas in your life that are not abundant, the good news is that you can change it! You created it, so you can transform it. You are the one responsible for your life, no one else.
What do you want? Why do you want it? And how will you feel when you receive it? These are some of the most important questions you can ask yourself when connecting back to your abundance. Focus on abundance (not the lack of abundance) and you will receive more of the same. Remember that you looking for abundance is like a fish looking for water. You ARE abundant! Imagine and enjoy.
As I mentioned in the first section of this newsletter, I was having a hard time connecting to my joy while I was in Arizona. It seemed as though everything in my reality was upsetting me. I was feeling hurt by my mom and my best friend. I was very down. This was puzzling to me, because here I was on vacation for three weeks in Arizona with my guys. I “should” have been so over the moon excited, but I was feeling sad instead.
I realized that what was happening with me was of my own doing. It was the Law of Reflection. Everything in your reality (your outer world) is a direct reflection of your inner world. In other words, your beliefs, thoughts and feelings all lead to the manifestation of your life experience. So I was witnessing all these situations that were upsetting me. I called my girlfriend, Rebecca, who is always such a great support system for me, and she asked me the questions that helped me get to what was the bottom line issue. I always say, “Even coaches need coaches when we are in our dark days.” She asked me, “What are the thoughts and beliefs behind these emotions?”
The bottom line for me was that I was feeling insignificant. It is easy for me to feel significant when I am helping someone change his or her life, or when I witness a client shift. But when I was on vacation, there was no work to channel my feeling of being significant. I had to change the belief that I was insignificant, and more importantly I had to give myself what I needed to feel significant.
What did I do? Whenever I felt a lower level state of being, or when I was witnessing what I did not want, I would stop and connect to my own feeling of significance. I told myself whatever I needed to say to allow myself to feel significant. I looked for evidence that I was important and valued through my husband, son, or other friends. And more importantly, I connected to the feelings of being important and valuable. I would connect to that feeling several times a day. Whatever you are trying to change within you, pick one energy such as the feelings of freedom, or abundance, or significance and vibrate there. Does matter what you call it, if the feeling is a high feeling, all good will flow to you.
I also started to do a process called the Ultimate Mirror Dialogue that I learned from my friend Barbara Rose, PhD. What you do is two times a day you look into your eyes in any mirror and tell yourself three good qualities derived from your observable actions that day. Here is my example: I observed my mothering to Alex. That action displayed the three good qualities of being loving, fun, and responsive. I then would look into my eyes and tell myself the outer action and the three qualities that I had within me that were displayed by doing that action. I would then feel so good about myself and I would feel expanded and joyful. Even if you did something that was not good, what good came out of it? For example, my mom was folding towels and I started to help her. Then Frederic started to help her and she said, “Oh I have such a wonderful son-in-law.” Not “Oh my daughter and son-in-law . . .” So I could have reacted from that feeling of insignificance, but instead I made a joke out of it. Later that day I looked in the mirror and observed how I reacted to my mom’s statement. I reacted with humor. The qualities that I observed were maturity, lightness, and a good sense of humor.
Why is this mirror dialogue effective? Two times a day you are telling yourself the complete truth that you can’t dispute in any way. Sometimes affirmations are great, but other times they don’t work, because they can be disputed. When you tell yourself that you were a great mother and that you showed qualities of being loving, fun and responsive, your mind can’t dispute what you say because it is an observable fact. If you typically believe things when you see it, which we all have that within us, this is a great process to use.
When you are becoming a deliberate creator, it is important to take responsibility for whatever is manifesting in your life. It would have been really easy for me to blame my mom or my friend for what they were doing. Blaming someone or something for what is in your reality is playing the victim, and is not coming from a place of empowerment. When I took responsibility for what was within me, based on what my outer world was showing me, I was able to shift and so did the situations and relationships. I had a great time with my mom and my best friend.
My sister-in-law had the same thing happen to her at work. She was feeling devalued with her boss. She started to think about all the great things that she does at work and all of her great qualities as an employee. She was working with shifting her own perception of her value. As she shifted, so did her outer reality. Her bosses gave her one of the highest honors with the company.
The Law of Reflection
The Law of Reflection is a very important law.
The Law of Reflection says that the traits you respond to in others, you recognize in yourself, both positive and negative.
Everything in the Universe is a mirror reflection of YOU. All relationships are a mirror reflection of the relationship with YOU. This includes your relationship with money as well as people in your life. If you have fear or insecurity about money, success, or anyone
in your life, then these are reflections of fear and insecurity within your own being. No matter how secure your partner attempts to make you feel, how much money or success you acquire, unless you change your inner feelings of insecurity, you will never feel secure.
Have you ever noticed this happens in relationships? The one partner is insecure, and no matter what the other partner says or does, the one partner is never secure and questions the love of the other.
This law can be demonstrated in four ways.
That which you admire in others, you recognize as existing within yourself. When you notice wonderful qualities in another person, it is because you too have those qualities. When I look at Frederic and think about how truly amazing he is, it is an opportunity to recognize that I am just as amazing. I would not have been able to attract him into my life (by the Law of Attraction) if I was not as amazing.
EXERCISE: When you admire qualities in a person, what do you admire about them? Own that you too have those qualities! You wouldn’t be able to recognize them if you didn’t!
The Law of Reflection is demonstrated by that which you resist and react to strongly in others is sure to be found within you. I cover this in depth in my book, Perfect Pictures. Do you have those people in your life that push your buttons? No matter what they do, they seem to upset you in some way? A lot of us can relate to this with our parents. When you start to learn and apply the Law of Reflection, it is freeing. You realize when someone upsets you and you resist a quality that they possess, you can then turn back to yourself and realize that in order to change it outside of yourself, you need to change it within.
The third way that the Law of Reflection is expressed is that which you resist and react to in others is something which you are afraid exists within you. This is the scary part. When we observe this type of quality in another person and have an emotional reaction to it, we certainly don’t want to look at it. I know I used to hate it when my dad would express his anger. It wasn’t until I learned this law that I realized that I too had anger issues. But the good news was that once I became aware of it in myself, I was able to change it. Now when I get angry I have a healthy way of expressing it, instead of blowing
up and upsetting and alienating everyone around me. Because I applied the Law of Reflection in my own life, I can gain clarity and change what I am afraid of.
The Law of Reflection manifests in that which you resist in yourself, you will dislike in others. It is all about self-love. When you realize that you dislike a quality in another person, point the finger back to yourself and that is a great indication of where we need to develop self–love and self-acceptance.
The Law of Reflection is a great way to rise above the effect of fear. Those fears will always be reflected in your reactions to others. Once you recognize that everything is a mirror reflection of you and your inner world, you can recognize them and change them. As you let go of the fear, you automatically open yourself to express more unconditional love for yourself and others.
Our emotions are a gift from our higher self to let us know how we are feeling in each moment. It is our guidance system. How are you feeling? Remember feelings are the language of the Soul and the Soul always stands in its integrity. So how are you really feeling about yourself? Want a clue? What reflections of other people and other things are affecting you? When something irritates you about a person, situation, or circumstance, identify what is really irritating you. Now look deep inside yourself and identify that irritation inside of you.
Conversely, when you are with someone who makes you feel positive emotions, or you are happy doing an activity, or you see an object you really admire, look deep inside yourself to see what it mirrors to you that you like about yourself. The reflection that you have identified you cannot change in the other person or object. You must change
It if it irritates you, inside of you. If it pleases you, you must enhance it inside of you. You cannot change anyone else – only you. When you look in a mirror and your hair needs brushing, do you brush the hair on your head or the hair in the mirror? Everything is a reflection if you open your eyes to empowering yourself at Soul level. Look for the reflections and see what they teach you about you. By wanting to expand your consciousness and choosing to expand your spiritual growth, see the reflections as your continual growth opportunities – see these reflections as fascinating, exciting openings to become Who You Really Are as you strive to remember you are a part of Source.
The Truth and the Law
1. Your outer world of form and experience is a reflection of your inner world of thoughts and feelings. As above, so below. As within, so without. That is the Law.
2. The greater your awareness of the Presence of Spirit within you, the more that Presence fills your consciousness. That is the Law.
3. The deeper your understanding of Spirit as the Source, Substance and Activity of your supply, the more permanently that Truth will be etched in your consciousness. That is the Law.
4. It is your spiritual consciousness –your Knowledge of the Presence of God within you as total and complete fulfillment –that interprets itself as every form or experience in your world. That is the Law.
I have a very special gift for you this holiday season. I want to teach you about two Universal Laws that will make an enormous difference in your life. (Especially during this holiday season)
What are these laws?
The Law of Allowing and The Law of Giving
The Law of Allowing
The Law of Allowing is one of the most important laws, but usually the hardest for people to grasp. You may be working with the Law of Attraction, and Deliberate Creation, but if you do not master the Law of Allowing you will not have your desires realized. You will continue to struggle focusing on affirmations, meditations, and vision boards only to be left feeling more frustrated and confused. This is the law that will leave you saying, “Why does this stuff work for other people, but not me?”
Do you think that if someone with beliefs opposed to yours gets their way, you can’t have your way? Or do you believe there’s room for it all?
The truth is, there is freedom in allowing circumstances to be what they are and people to be who they are, whether you agree with them or not.
So, how in the world do you accept situations and people that stand for something you don’t? Or that want the opposite of what you want?
We tend to think we can’t have it both ways. So what do we do? We push back! We hold protest marches against war, we organize campaigns against drugs, we battle disease. And yet, understanding the Law of Attraction — that whatever you are focused on you attract more of — when you are focused on what you do not want in an effort to defeat it or resist it, you are not allowing what you do want to flow to you.
The Law of Allowing is about relaxing – having a relaxed, but positively focused mind – and allowing the universe to deliver to you what you’re wanting. When you say yes to something, you attract more of that into your life, because that is what you are focused on. When you say no to something, you attract more of that into your life, because that is what you are focused on. So in order to allow what you want to flow to you, you must allow others to focus on what they want – even if you don’t agree with it. When you understand these principles and put them to use consciously, intentionally and deliberately, you put yourself in a place of nonresistance.
How do you know if you’re allowing? By noticing how you feel.
Your emotions are always your guide. Whenever you are in a place of feeling good, you are in a place of allowing. Nothing is more important than that you feel good!
So what happens if someone is in your life is acting inappropriate? Does that mean you take the abuse, disrespect, and the negativity? NO! You are allowed to set your boundaries, and when someone is crossing them, you can say “No more”. This means trying not to change them, but respectfully telling them what is your truth.
We had a lady that we had to ask to leave the Goddess weekend, because she was inappropriate, disrespectful, and didn’t play well with others. We allowed her to be who she was, but after her attitude and behavior was so disruptive, we had to set our boundaries and ask her to leave. Having her there, did not feel good. Asking her to leave did not feel good. But after she left, it felt amazing.
She is allowed to be herself. We did not try to change her. But we respectfully ask that she be herself somewhere else.
The Law of Giving
Why is The Law of Giving important? This is a law that most people forget about. This is a key in creating abundance. To give is to receive. Giving and receiving are the two opposite seats on the see-saw of life. Every relationship is one of give and take. Everything in the Universe is energy. Energy is continually being exchanged in the Universe as it flows from gas to liquid to solid, from solid to liquid to gas. The circulation, the flow of energy means that something or someone is always giving energy one moment in one form and receiving energy the next moment in another form. It is when you give that you also receive. The intention behind the giving, if it is to create happiness for the receiver and the giver, will ensure it generates increase. Happiness is expansive because it supports life and sustains life. It adds to, or increases, life. The giver also benefits from this expansiveness, this increase in life. The Law of Giving says if you want to receive something first give it to others. The best way to get what you want is to help others get what they want. Giving and receiving, with the correct intention, allows the flow of energies in the Universe to provide for the Giver and for the Receiver. For as long as you give you will be receiving.
Giving is an esoteric science that never fails to produce results if it is done with love and joy, because the Law will shower you with ten-fold return.
Go here to listen to the teleseminar that I did on these two laws.
Isn’t life good when living the law of attraction? It has definitely transformed my life and I know it can change yours too. Don’t stress if you haven’t noticed a change yet. It will happen!
One thing that helps me is to take every opportunity I have to learn more about the law of attraction. That is why I sent out an e-mail a short time ago regarding the Law of Attraction Insider 12 week teleseminar series. It is a program that I am very excited to share with you.
I will be a featured guest along with 11 other amazing lawof attraction experts. We will share with you our knowledge and tips on how to achieve abundance and prosperity. And guess what… it’s FREE!! You really can’t afford to miss this! Go here now to sign up: www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=1080372
Every once and awhile I will receive a crazy email from someone that wants to show me “THE” way. They came across my website and see that I talk about the universal laws, but they are concerned about my soul after I die. They feel that I am materialistic, because I enjoy things like having my ideal partner, my ideal body, abundance, taking nice vacations, and so on.
Those are typically the type of people that are so unhappy and they search for something that will help them. They see what someone else has and then they get upset because they don’t have it. Instead of being inspired by someone else, they feel the need to tell them how they are living their life wrong.
I thought this was great to bring up, because this is the exact opposite of the Law of Allowing. Someone was so upset because of my way of life (good, bad, or indifferent), that they had to write me a VERY long and descriptive email about where I am going to go when I die because I, oh let me quote it: “Our sin nature that we inherited from Adam and Eve leads us to live just for here and now and mainly for self. (Which is all your program is about, get more for me, a husband, a fancy car, a dream home etc.)”
I had to laugh when I received this, because I am living my wonderful life and it is because I have wonderful souls in my life, I have deep meaning by what I teach (I get to help people improve their lives and feel a deeper connection every day), I have such an amazing connection to God/Goddess/All that is and all the other stuff is attracted to me because of the high vibration of love and appreciation that I hold.
This person (and so many others that don’t know) don’t understand, or are afraid of the Universal Laws, make judgments. What does judging another do? It lowers your vibration!
One of my husband’s friends at Alex’s Christening told me that I was a pagan because I believed in the Universal laws. Seriously? You are at a Christening for my son and your belief is that because I follow and believe in the Universal laws that I am going to hell? Again . . . I had to laugh.
It all is funny to me, because I can see that they are scared. They are in total fear because it is something they can’t understand. So what do they do? They judge and ridicule someone else’s ways. Again, going against the Law of Allowing!
There are three ways that the Law of Allowing works:
- How you relate to the Universe.
- How you relate with others.
- How you relate to yourself.
As far as relationships, when you’re around someone do you think that if someone has beliefs that are opposed to yours that you have to make them see the light and try to change them?
If someone you’re around has a different belief then you have do you feel that you need to change their opinion or their belief or do you simply allow them to feel the way they feel and give yourself permission to feel the way you feel? Do you accept situations and people that stand for something that you don’t? Or, do you want the opposite to happen? Do you basically try and change people’s opinions and try to control, and basically judge people who don’t think the way you think?
That is truly the Law of Allowing as it relates to being in relationships. We think that we have to have it both ways. We think that everybody has to think the way we think or believe the way we believe so we push back on people if they don’t think the way we think. That is resistance!
I know I used to push back on and try to change my parents, or push back on circumstances I didn’t like. What is wrong with this is I was completely focused on what was wrong in my life and what I needed to change in my life instead of accepting and allowing it to be there.
Understanding the Law of Attraction whatever you’re focused upon you attract more of, when you’re focused on what you don’t want in order to defeat it or resist it you’re not allowing what you do want to flow to you. I hope I am making sense and you’re kind of getting it as far as how it relates to people.
When you’re trying to make your partner think a certain way or be a certain way you’re focused on the “bad qualities” or the way you want them to be instead of being focused on the positive qualities of that person and really drawing out the positive qualities in the person. You’re focused on the wrong thing. You’re focused on what you don’t want, what you don’t like instead of being focused on what you really do like about that person.
When that happens you’re out of alignment with the Law of Allowing. If you’re out of alignment with the Law of Allowing you believe that another person needs to think, feel, believe and act according to how you think they should. I call this having perfect pictures. That is what my book Perfect Pictures explains.
This can cause a lot of suffering in your life and in your relationships. This is literally the opposite of accepting another person as they are. It is based on this. If you have a deep rooted fear that unless everyone thinks, feels, believes and acts in a certain way basically your way that they are somehow wrong, you then judge them. In that judging you are in a lower level emotion. You’re in a lower level vibration and based on the Law of Attraction you will attract more negative people, circumstances, and situations to you.
When you’re in a relationship with someone whether it is a coworker, a significant relationship, a relationship with your kids when you’re judging them and wanting them to be the way you think you want them to be instead of accepting them for who you are you’re in a low vibration and that is what you’re going to get back to you.
You will attract more negative people, situations, circumstances and things to you. If you need to make everyone conform in order to make you feel good about yourself and your world you truly will never experience freedom. This is like the exact opposite of freedom. This is bondage and you can never get the rest of the entire world to behave the way you think they should.
This is why so many arguments start. This is why wars start. It is just because we don’t allow people to believe what they believe. Literally the Law of Allowing is about relaxing, having a relaxed a positively focused mind and allowing the universe to deliver to you what you’re wanting.
It is like with anything when you say yes to something you attract more of that into your life because that is what you’re focused on based on the Law of Attraction. Again, when you noted something and you’re resisting something you attract more of that into your life because this is what you’re focused on.
In order to allow what you want to flow to you, you must allow others to focus on what they want even if you don’t agree with it. When you understand these principles and put them into use consciously, intentionally and deliberately you put yourself in a place of non-resistance.
In the example of receiving this email where this man was trying to “enlighten” me on “THE” way to be, I laughed and silently blessed this man in hopes that he can find his happiness. I quickly moved about my day thanking the Universe for all the amazing blessings in my life.
I thought it was a good time to bring up this subject of the Law of Allowing, because the holidays are coming and your holiday season will be so much better when you are in the space of allowing.
I wish you a wonderful holiday season!